Do Not Presume. (6)

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DillyTante
Posted by DillyTante on Fri 8 Sep 06, 7:38 AM

Do not presume that your opinion is fact and that you may present it to me as such. Do not present your subjective advice to me as veiled instruction, when in truth, it represents no more than your own point of view.

Do not trail me, like a self-appointed traffic warden, flapping a rulebook and citing parking restrictions. Your rulebook is your own. Those double yellow lines are of your individual design and you place them upon my territory, without permission.

Do not disparage what I say, think or do and interpret my tact or silence, as acquiescence or agreement.

Do not pay mealy-mouthed lip-service, to my right to express my thoughts, while making it apparent, that your respect for my choices, is not genuine.

Do not determine, that my experience or perceptions are not valid, because they don't match your own. Do not attack those, who similarly fail to meet your specific criterion.

Beware who you proscribe and lambast, for you may be proscribing me.

Do not presume to apply your personal definitions to this old fool. For when you make such presumptions, you do so without my consent.

On two separate occasions this week, I've been moved to memo strangers on IC, expressing support, connected to the general issues I raise here. This may have offered them the dubious pleasure of knowing that, 'The Lurkers Support Them In Email'.

For me, it has not felt quite enough.

"If I didn't define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive."

Audre Lourde

Edited Fri 8 Sep 06, 7:52 AM by DillyTante

Replies

8 Sep 06, 3:31 PM
Insistor
UK, 4 yrs

DillyTante wrote:
Do not presume that your opinion is fact and that you may present it to me as such. Do not present your subjective advice to me as veiled instruction, when in truth, it represents no more than your own point of view.
Do not trail me, like a self-appointed traffic warden, flapping a rulebook and citing parking restrictions. Your rulebook is your own. Those double yellow lines are of your individual design and you place them upon my territory, without permission.
Do not disparage what I say, think or do and interpret my tact or silence, as acquiescence or agreement.
Do not pay mealy-mouthed lip-service, to my right to express my thoughts, while making it apparent, that your respect for my choices, is not genuine.
Do not determine, that my experience or perceptions are not valid, because they don't match your own. Do not attack those, who similarly fail to meet your specific criterion.
Beware who you proscribe and lambast, for you may be proscribing me.
Do not presume to apply your personal definitions to this old fool. For when you make such presumptions, you do so without my consent.
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On two separate occasions this week, I've been moved to memo strangers on IC, expressing support, connected to the general issues I raise here. This may have offered them the dubious pleasure of knowing that, 'The Lurkers Support Them In Email'.
For me, it has not felt quite enough.
"If I didn't define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive."
Audre Lourde
You were bloody great in "the Best Years of Our Lives".
"There ain't no Sanity Clause", the Marx Bros.

8 Sep 06, 5:41 PM
DillyTante
UK, 3 yrs

Insistor wrote:
You were bloody great in "the Best Years of Our Lives".
I'm always bloody great Mr. Insistor. Except of course, for those occasions when I'm not.
Dilly
Slip-sliding off a fence.

8 Sep 06, 5:41 PM
DillyTante
UK, 3 yrs

almaviva wrote:

Insistor wrote:

DillyTante wrote:
..... snip... Do not determine, that my experience or perceptions
You were bloody great in "the Best Years of Our Lives".
To be expected from a Lady with impeccable comic timing and a face like a startled bloodhound
Ah. Perhaps you just admire, a blithe spirit

Dilly
Slip-sliding off a fence.

25 May 07, 11:29 AM
Iona_O
UK(SS), 2 yrs
Your post said exactly what I have felt on many occasions but never got round to putting into words. It would be some comfort if these people knew who they were but I very much doubt that most of them would recognise themselves. The just know that they are Right and everyone else must either agree or be relegated to the ignorant masses of those who dare to express another opinion
I feel if ever you and I were to meet we would be great friends. I can sense a kindred spirit (aside from the smoking which isn't a problem online! )
I aim to please - and I'm pleased with my aim
A sub's trust is a valuable thing
Happiness is... hearing from someone special

25 May 07, 3:57 PM
Bear0two
UK, 2 yrs
great post. It should be on the start of every thread.
Bear. The Heart is mad, and the Heart is the ground I call you to walk on. - Adi Da Samraj

25 May 07, 7:45 PM
DillyTante
UK, 3 yrs
Iona_O, thank you again. As for the smoking, I never cyber-smoke. It's so...so...I don't know...unsatisfying
BearOtwo, I'm pleased you like it. Thank you
Dilly


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