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IC : Weblogs : alexandraa : "Playing The Negative Game"

Playing The Negative Game (3)

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alexandraa
Posted by alexandraa* on Thu 7 Sep 06, 9:50 PM

I'm tired tonight. It's been a long day at work and I didn't sleep well last night, my upstairs neighbours came home from holiday at 3am and brought a herd of tap dancing elephants with them. They all unpacked and then took showers until about 4.30am. I'm also tired of people playing the negative game. It's not my way and it drains me.

Criticisms, complaints, dragging everyone and everything down, a destructive mêlée. It appears it's almost a joy to do it, pleasure in misery and dissatisfaction. Any little happiness becomes something to be pulled down and destroyed. It gets very tiresome. It's a game two of my teams play and my mother plays it perfectly, she gets upset because I refuse to join in.

I've been guilty myself of falling into that habit. I'm not quite sure why we do it. I suppose some people find it comforting. I grew up with it and found it quite hard to cope with, I think I'm a naturally positive person. I find it upsetting when I speak of a small happiness or some fun and it gets mocked or destroyed. Cynicism poured thickly onto it, so all pleasure becomes questioned, doom and gloom the only forecast.

Why do people do that? Lord knows I can be as cynical as the next person coming but I don't try to destroy people's happiness. I don't trample over their fun or joy. I don't think I do anyway. I don't mean to that's for sure. In a team situation, three people or more, it seems to grow like a beast, round and round until the people concerned only seem to be happy when they are attacking. Not attacking each other but everything around them. They have to drag it down and vilify it.

Fuck I'm on a right moaning roll aren't I? Playing the negative game myself perhaps. That's what comes of writing blogs when I'm tired. I will now become childlike and petulant and start crying because I'm not in bed.

It seemed like a good idea to strip it earlier, the bed, the bed, keep up, so now it is unmade. Sigh. Making beds and stripping them is dull isn't it? Mind you, can you imagine being a chamber maid and doing that all day, every day? Bet you'd absolutely refuse to change the beds at home. Or clean bathrooms.

My sister once worked as a chamber maid and walked in on a man wanking over porn mags on the bed. She said, "oh so so sorry". He said, "no no stay and please deal with the room". The fool submissive woman then cleaned, dusted and vacuumed around him, delicately moving the mags to one side as she straightened the bed. Meanwhile he sat on a chair, in an open bathrobe and held his trouser snake. Honestly. I love making her tell me that story, she goes all red and says, "What was I thinking?".

Oh well off to make up beds then get in them, another hard day tomorrow beckons but then a weekend away. Mwahhhahhahahhahhahaaaaaaaaaaaa. Oh yes, naughtiness and trouble are looming on the horizon, and maybe more poetry. Bristol beware.

Edited Thu 7 Sep 06, 9:56 PM by alexandraa

Replies

7 Sep 06, 9:55 PM
lucky_1
UK, 3 yrs 
alexandraa wrote:
Bristol beware.

Ahhhh my old stomping ground. Well you get some rest because I really DO want to hear all about it next week. Go and rampage all over the place, just for me. I'll even give you PD's address! ;)

Mwahhhh haaaaa haaa!

The more that pleasure turns into pain, the more inclined I am to stand and take it. Texas 2005

8 Sep 06, 8:57 AM
northernwench
UK, 3 yrs 
'Domestic service' does nothing to float my boat (woo! something that doesnt)plus I am monumentally crap at cleaning, but at least being a chambermaid means you get to wear a frilly, black and white thing.

I could happily do that for a day,polishing, dusting, especially if my heels were high enough and I was being 'encouraged' ;)

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8 Sep 06, 5:14 PM
subsumed
UK, 8 yrs 
alexandraa wrote:
It seemed like a good idea to strip it earlier, the bed, the bed, keep up, so now it is unmade. Sigh. Making beds and stripping them is dull isn't it? Mind you, can you imagine being a chamber maid and doing that all day, every day? Bet you'd absolutely refuse to change the beds at home. Or clean bathrooms.

It is a tedious, agreed, but one that ultimately is so worthwhile. One of my favourite things in life is getting into a freshly made up bed. I love the feel and smell of clean bed linen. I heard once that Jacqueline Kennedy/Onassis had a strictly enforced rule that her bed had to be changed every day or even more than once a day if she had taken a nap. I could quite happily live that way.

Hope your weekend has you feeling happier.

 
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