Posted by cerrynn1 on Tue 20 Apr 04, 11:07 AM to cerrynn1's blog.
As always, we had a great time at the BBB on Sunday. Many thanks to all who gave us feedback after Matou's demo ("The Art of the Cane"). The responses and comments we receive, along with (of course) the response from our audiences *during* each demo we do, encourage us to continue to do demos and workshops. Few people who present workshops and demos at BDSM events get paid -- we certainly don't. Both of us, but especially Matou, put a great deal of time and effort into planning what we will do each time. Feedback and response are our rewards.
Of course there are other reasons why we both like doing demos:
Both Matou and I love communicating with people. We enjoy sharing our love of BDSM and D/s with others. We want other people to have as much fun and find as much deep satisfaction with BDSM and D/s -- in their own individual ways, of course -- as we do. We hope that people will be able to enjoy BDSM and D/s without causing themselves or their partners serious physical or emotional injury. And if we can accomplish any or all of the above and be a little bit entertaining as well, so much the better.
That's why we do demos. That's why we DM and "meet&greet" at Velvet Eden. That's why we write many of our weblogs.
Of course, we both also have a bit of an exhibitionistic streak (me especially!) ... so we do get quite a bit of enjoyment out of that aspect as well! (I was talking to my mother on the telephone last night. She asked me if we had done anything "exciting" over the weekend. For one brief moment I was tempted to say, "Well, Matou caned me in front of 200 people on Sunday" but I settled for saying "oh, nothing much" instead.)
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Those of you who saw the demo know that I bratted up a storm on Sunday. This (my bratting, that is) has become a traditional element in several of Matou's demos. The irony is ... well, I actually *said* it on Sunday: "But! But!! Everyone *knows* I'm not a brat! It's all *Role Play*!!!"
In a way that's true. It *is* role play for me. To do "the brat thing" I have to psych myself up, get in the mood, and mentally rehearse. In fact, Matou will vouch for the fact that I was "rehearsing" for nearly three days in advance of Sunday! We were at a party on Saturday night, and I was so throughly in "brat mode" that he was checking the tag on my formal collar. He said he was wondering if someone had switched subs on him.
On the other hand, I suppose there is *some* natural brattiness in me. If there weren't, I wouldn't be able to think up things to say in the demos. And Matou does say that I *do*, sometimes, brat in "real life", except that it is (in his words, not mine!) "very, very subtle". Which I choose to take as a compliment! (See, what did I tell you?)
I do quite enjoy bratting (as role play, of course!) *on occasion*. I think I would find it rather tiring to do all the time. I continue to be grateful that when I please him, Matou *rewards* me with play, rather than obliging me to to earn my play through bratting so that he has to "punish" me. I do know many people enjoy doing that, and to them I say ... you must have much more energy than I do. Creative, high-quality bratting is hard work!
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Speaking again of the demo, and responses to the demo ...
Yesterday, through the miracles of the internet, Matou and I heard the tale of one couple. Report has it they were at the BBB. We don't know if they were at the demo. If they weren't, perhaps they should have been. Because ... according to our sources, they saw fit to go Try Something At Home.
Specifically, the dominant decided to try out a "non- rattan" cane (what we heard; I'm assuming "non-rattan" means bamboo) to see if it really *would* break. In the demo, Matou shows why using bamboo canes isn't such a hot idea by breaking one in two (with his hands; *not* by hitting me with it!). It doesn't take much effort to break dried bamboo as it is hollow and brittle. And the usual result? Multiple razor-sharp splinters. The dominant we heard about allegedly tried this -- *on* their submissive. Guess what? It broke. Surprise, surprise.
We heard this, and we were just ... speechless. We've decided that before Matou breaks the bamboo cane in the *next* caning demo, we will say, very, very slowly and clearly, "Don't -- try -- this -- at -- home -- especially -- not -- on -- a -- person" (sorry, yes, this *is* me being sarcastic *and* "judgemental" here). Not that saying that, or saying anything, will stop people who seem determined to throw common sense to the winds. But *we* will feel better, at least.
I guess this couple assessed the risk of breaking a bamboo cane on a submissive and found it acceptable ... and thankfully, from what we have heard we gather that the submissive involved was uninjured. Which reminds me of something my grandmother used to say: "God takes care of fools and little children." Actually, the original saying is "God takes care of *drunks* and little children", but my grandmother was a staunch Methodist who didn't even like to acknowledge the existence of drunkeness. Besides, her own version fits this situation better anyway.
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And finally, for hellsbells, in response to your adventure with the alarm man:
Take comfort. Be embarrassed no more. I'm *sure* he assumed that the equipment on display in your bedroom was for the purpose of you chaining and tormenting your husband! Think about it: where do most vanillas get their information on BDSM? From TV (oh, and the Daily Mail, but we'll leave that for now). From TV programmes like *Taboo*, *Real Sex* and the like. Programmes which love nothing better than showing those naughty-but-oh- so-sexy "dominatrix" types! Consequently, I am quite sure that most vanillas (including, probably, your hapless alarm man) will have concluded that the *only* people who like being tied up and tortured are men, and that the only people who like *doing* the tying up, etc., are women.
So you see? Nothing to be embarrassed about! <weg> (Good to see both of you again on Sunday, by the way!)
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And on that cheery note I shall bid you all farewell, as the next bit is for Matou.
What! You're still here!? Oh, all right, I *guess* you can stay ...
To my beloved Dominant, lover, and best friend ... two years ago today we met in person for the first time. Words can't express how grateful I am that you became part of my life that day, and that you are still a part of my life ... the *most* important part. Ai shiteru, Sensei, itsumo ...
**your** cerrynn{M}
Edited Tue 20 Apr 04, 12:32 PM by cerrynn1
