Wondering

IC Name: wonderer Joined: 21 Oct 2006 Last visit: 14 hours ago Sex/gender: Male Location: Midlands, UK

Summary

I enjoy keeping in touch with people here and participating in discussions - though my participation ebbs and flows. Not here looking for partners; I'm happily married, and not much of a practicing kinkster, but very much an admirer of kink and friend of kinksters. Most people here are nice. I like meeting folk from here in real life too, so I go to a few munches, BBB, etc when I can. I have a very full and fulfilling life outside of kink too.

P.S. (Updated 30/11/2011) For absolute clarity I'd like to say I'm not looking for any kind of intense intimate interactions here. I'm not totally angelic (who is) and have a few minor forays in the past, but - given the unlikelihood of fully explicit and checkable permission at home - I've decided that for the future it's better that I abstain.

Why Wonderer?

Well I'm not here as a highly experienced practitioner; in fact I've had a rather sheltered life and have very limited first hand experience of BDSM. Nor am I here as a voyeur. I'm here as one who wonders, admires, appreciates, desires, identifies but doesn't do anything much.

I wonder at all sorts of things; at the world we live in, and all in it; at the world of kink and its wonderful diversity of people, and amazing variety of imaginative ways to express intimacy. I wonder at myself sometimes, my strange appetites. I wonder where they may lead me.

I did try to change my name here from Wonderer at once stage, but so many people thought Wonderer suited me that I reverted.

... and why am I here?

I don't just wonder; I also identify as kinky and submissive); a non-practising kinkster for the moment and probably for all time. But nevertheless a kinkster by nature. I'm here on IC and float around munch-world mainly for friendship - giving and receving. To feel part of the "community". To learn. To appreciate. And to try and give something back in my imperfect but well meaning way.

... and why no photo?

I need to be discreet about my identity. Sadly some people and organisations misunderstand and vilify some of the activities depicted here, even when safe, sane and consensual. Being "outed" - even when one has had only peripheral involvement - can lead to scandal and disadvantage to some in professional and personal life.

A bit about me ...

... in case anyone is interested.

I'm something of an egalitarian and lefty libertarian. I like the great outdoors. Some people think I'm reasonably intelligent, caring and cultured and my dearest even thinks I'm good looking, but she's hopelessly biassed! Interests include singing, cooking, spirituality, reading, trying to keep fit, and involvement in a sport which isn't too exhausting.

I have religious allegiances of a liberal christian hue. That doesn't mean I'm a prude or out to ban all kinds of fun, nor does it mean I believe every nonsensical or irrelevant metaphysical assertion of some of my co-religionists. But it does give me a particular language and tradition to fuel my passion for justice, peace, beauty, goodness, creativity, generosity and a vision for a better world. I obviously recognise that people with other traditions and sources of inspiration can have similar aspirations. My Christianity also means I can identify with and experience deeply a lot of great religious art, music, worship and other cultural artefacts.

I'm very interested to meet up with others in the kink world and especially people in a similar position, on a friendship basis. I enjoy the wonderful diversity of people on the scene who I've encountered: on this site, at a few munches, at the BBB and other events and a few coffee or dinner meets with individuals.

I don't want to get involved BDSM play for family reasons. This does seem to mean I can sometimes have nice uncomplicated friendships with lovely and fascinating people from this weird and wonderful world of kink.

This profile was last updated on 24 Jan 12, 7:14 PM.

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