Me under an African sky

IC Name: tony999 Joined: 2 Dec 2006 Last visit: 7 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: London / South Bucks, UK Age: 50

I've been here on IC for four years now, and I love it. I must do or why else would I feel I have to visit so often? And I DO mean often. I'll sometimes check out the women. Not subs, you understand, but women. And occasionally make contact.

I've met a few now, and had some very enjoyable and very kinky sex (not played you understand) with most I've met. Even had a relationship once with a woman I found on this very site. And yet it's always felt like this isn't really for me. I don't quite fit.

I peruse the posts, occasionally responding or feeling drawn into a debate but, and here's the crux, always as an outsider. Not because I've been excluded by anyone, or fallen victim to the infamous cliques, but because that's my place here. It's just natural.

If I have a posting style them it's probably that of standing on the sidelines taking the piss pointing out the ridiculous and sticking pins into inflated pomposity. Good example here

and here

And let's be honest there's always plenty to ridicule. Sometimes I'll post something on a thread and later find that despite the thread filling up it's been stepped around like a turd on a pavement. Other times I get memos saying well said.

I'm one of the most socially active and outgoing people of my age that I know, and whilst I don't quite go out and mix like I did when I was 18, I'm up for most nights out. Except Fetish / BDSM ones. Except events where the main thing we'll have in common is 'kink'. Been there, had a look, walked away.

I feel at this point that I should out myself.

You see I'm not really a fetish guy, I'm not a lifestyle BDSM guy, I'm not a scene guy never have and never will be.

BDSM activism? I honestly couldn't give a monkeys.

Finding transgedered folk sexually attractive? I'm just not that liberal.

The politics of kink? It bores me.

A man who's kinky, sexually uninhibited, dominant, inquisitive, and hedonistic, unafraid to live out my fantasies. But not defined by it, and maybe that's the real difference, the thing that keeps me an outsider.

Call me anything but call me a Dom, or call me Master, even whilst I'm dominating you and as has happened on more than one occasion, and I'll gently correct you.

A human being is part of the whole called by us The Universe, a part limited in time and space. We experience ourselves, our thoughts and feelings as something separate from the rest. A kind of optical delusion of consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from the prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty. The true value of a human being is determined by the measure and the sense in which they have obtained liberation from the self. We shall require a substantially new manner of thinking if humanity is to survive.

(Albert Einstein, 1954)

Sometimes it makes me sad, though... Andy being gone. I have to remind myself that some birds aren't meant to be caged. Their feathers are just too bright. And when they fly away, the part of you that knows it was a sin to lock them up DOES rejoice. But still, the place you live in is that much more drab and empty that they're gone. I guess I just miss my friend.

Red (TSSR)

And finally;

An ignorant person is one who doesn't know what you have just found out.

Always up for interesting conversations.

Eye colour: Green   Height: 5ft 11in  

This profile was last updated on 29 Jan 12, 11:57 PM.

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