Must admit Im becoming very dissolutioned being here right now; even to the stage of considering deleting my profile and returning FL. Perhaps its me; I build my hopes up too much; expect too much, read too much into things. Just feeling so downbeat and present and I becoming extremely cautious, wary and select who I reply to now. Just feel this site contains a lot of non genuine people; how difficult can it really be?!If you are genuine, please read on. Yes I waffle but Im just as honest as possible. Looking for just friends here in the lifestyle too.

Must admit too im not into heavy BDSM, the master and slave thing, ownership etc,but soft bondage/bdsm does arouse me. Have fantasies I love to play with. Perhaps its time to make it reality . Maybe its time to share this with somebody can share a relationship outside of bdsm too. Many of my friends constantly tell me I should be settled at my age; be in a relationship, having babies, doing all the things they do!!. I should be!All my mates think I could be a great catch and can't understand why I'm single but they aren't obviously aware of what I seek! And im wary of taking risks, unless it's the complete package that i seek. I'm happy to stay single rather than compromise.

But I seek a soft BDSM relationship too, perhaps with a novice even to learn and share too. Nothing too heavy, no pains or thrashings (lol, cant be a 24/7 player sadist. Looking for a vanilla non bdsm too! What do I want from a relationship?

I have tried vanilla relationships, and although they work in the short term, long term I need a relationship that has a mixture of vanilla and BDSM, somebody to be totally compatible with, share life, care about deeply, take care of too. Sex and mental arousal is an important part of BDSM play for me and im looking for somebody who enjoys both the sexual and non sexual elements of of BDSM.. I am not just looking for some 'kinky sex' or looking to tie somebody up and thrash them black and blue But a relationship of both BDSM and a 'conventional' relationship with a sub too.

With regards to BDSM, I am not into heavy things, munches and things. Lots of soft things; ties, gags, mind games, tasking, occasional role play and fantasies too. To see a submissive lady softly tied and gagged, being pleasured is one of the most arousing feelings in the world to me. I have a passion for silk scarves, expensive silk stockings/lingerie, reading/writing erotic bdsm stories too. Have also dabbled with erotic photography on a strictly professional basis with a pro-model (some of the pics here and more professional ones kept safer.........smiles)

Outside of BDSM I have lots of varied nilla interests too. What I do not want is casual play, casual sex, anybody in a realationship seeking thrills, anybody married, obviously anybody who lives miles away; sorry not too keen on smokers too!! My ideal sub?, sexually adventourous mid 20s-40s, caring, looking to settle and cherish a caring vanilla relationship alongside a BDSM one too.

All that said,I'm prepared to wait for the right person and will open up a little more if I chat to you. Ive had a few issues to deal with last few years that makes my position slightly unique pehaps slightly challenging but I am 100% single,& try to be upfront, honest too. Known I must come across as a fussy person lol but just think honesty is important although I am wondering if I will ever meet a lady who will make me feel very special and a whole mix of the above. Can a serious, non bdsm relationship work alongside a bdsm one? We'll see!

Height: 5ft 9in  

This profile was last updated on 9 Apr 11, 8:19 PM.

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