At Byron Cape

IC Name: relaxed1 Joined: 1 Jul 2005 Last visit: 60 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: NW Kent/SE London, UK Age: 49

"Had I the heavens' embroidered cloths,

Enwrought with golden and silver light,

The blue and the dim and the dark cloths

Of night and light and the half-light,

I would spread the cloths under your feet:

But I, being poor, have only my dreams;

I have spread my dreams under your feet;

Tread softly because you tread on my dreams."

William Butler Yeats (1865-1939)

In my late 30s I discovered (or rediscovered/understood/clarified – whatever) my fascination with the world of BDSM. I think fascination is a perfect description for my feelings, in that much of it will remain forever a mystery to me – not through any lack of desire to experience, experiment and understand, but through a personal lack of interest in some aspects of what qualifies to be included in the broad church that comprises this amazing lifestyle. (I hope that will be one of the rare occasions on which I will use that damnably overused, and misused, word 'lifestyle', but it seems apt in this instance.)

Why did it take me so long to embrace what I freely accept is an innate part of my personality? I think it's largely because my initial interest, in my teens, conflicted (I thought, in my youthful naivete) with my deeply-held belief in such things as equality, feminism and so on. As both I and my understanding matured, so I realised that nothing that is consensual conflicts with these values and the rest, as they say, is history.

I am wealthy beyond belief in the friends I have made through life; I have also lost some friends whom I would rather have kept, but that is all part of the learning experience.

It would not be accurate to say that I am conventional, nor to say that I am outrageously 'different'. Now, that's not entirely accurate; permit me to elucidate. I have MS. It neither defines me nor controls my life, but nor can it be ignored. If being in the company of a cripple, who is unashamed and unaplogetic about either his condition or occasionally using self-deprecating terms to describe himself bothers you, that's fine. I probably make some people uncomfortable.

I have found the yin to my yang in @chatterbox. We have differences, but many more similarities that make life both exciting and challenging. She doesn't care about my shortcomings, and I am getting used to her endless chattering!

Oh, and I also love to read poetry aloud.

A beautiful song.

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