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IC Name: overlap Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Last visit: 83 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: Cardiff, UK Age: 49

NOT LOOKING. VERY HAPPY AT PRESENT.

(UPDATE 4 April 2011. Am now collared! Whee!)

New pic! From the site to promote the broadcast of Mad Men 3 in the US. I like the Kirk and Spock pic, but I've been told that it says 'gay' to some people. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I don't want to mislead anyone.

KINK VERSION (SHORT):

Sensitive, intelligent submissive man offers good conversation and loyalty. With the right treatment and training I may even learn to please You in the way You deserve.

I want an outwardly vanilla relationship with someone sane. I know I'm submissive; not into dressing up myself (and not really all that keen on leather), and not crazy about pain. However a lady who knew she was the boss in the relationship, and emphasized that with occasional discipline would be a dream come true. Oh, of course, you can be on top.

VANILLA/REAL VERSION (LONG):

I peeked in here and didn't do much for my first few years. I looked at other profiles, and was pretty struck that women's are often far more detailed than men's. They're a lot more intimate too, as a rule. It's like these people know themselves.

So do I know myself? Not particularly. I remain hugely conflicted over the whole D/s thing. I believe in equality in pretty much everything, and dominance outside the 'bedroom' pretty much turns me off unless it's backed by expertise. (I'm still struggling to articulate this properly. I don't believe my submissiveness is particularly rational. It's simply what I want; I'm looking to meet women whose wants reciprocate mine.)

About that equality thing, I'm an ex-Labour party member, and these days I'm a far from gruntled, curmugeonly leftish libertarian anarchist. Or something like that. Really I just vote tactically. I'm a vegetarian, though the sort of vegetarian who eats fish. I've been a non-meat eater (with very occasional, like less than once a year, blips) for just about half my life now. It started off as an ethical position and has sort of stagnated into a health one and pure habit. I don't object at all to other people eating meat, but it's a very long time since I cooked or prepared any. (This is no longer particularly accurate. I have slipped back into eating meat.)

Perhaps as a result of the above, I'm fairly healthy. I've seen another guy here mention marathons, and I've done 13 (I think; I lost count) with a best of 2:51 and a worst of 3:36 (partly through not training) after which I pretty much gave up. However, after several months of not training, I've started again, and am gradually improving. Yes it hurts some times. No I don't get off on it. This stuff is non-negiotiable. I'm pretty willing to change for a relationship, but there are things I won't do (and that includes missing Doctor Who*). I have no tattooes and intend to stay that way. I have had an ear pierced, but really that's not me either. Dull, bordering on weird, I know.

[* I've left this in because it's more or less right. I have missed Dr Who for a Domme (and it turned out to be the best one of the latter Tenant years). I would happily miss it now after the one-off in April about the bus, and the recent 'Waters of Mars.' Every story now seems to be the same. No longer a fan. Hmmph. Just about all the fiction I like on tv now is 'Mad Men', 'Spooks', and 'The Thick of It.' -- This was written in 2009. Who improved greatly with Matt Smith, but it couldn't go down from Tenant's last year. 'Spooks' was awful last year. Not much else has changed, although I've added 'Rev', 'Nurse Jackie', and 'The Trip' to my likes.]

I like music (indeed as someone once said, it has a far more pleasing sound than ... some other thing). I hate most radio. I'm a radio 4 listener, with radio 3 for music (though there is some stuff on radio 2 I actually admit to liking). I hate listing bands and whatever, because I always forget something I later turn out to like a lot, and at other times don't understand my previous taste (as in 'I said I liked the Fall, Christ, what was I thinking of?') and I had Phillip Glass on my iPod when cooking once and nearly lost my mind (I like Glass - and Steve Reich - a lot, but there are times when it drives you crazy).

Books. I read a lot, somewhere between a book a day and a book a week, depending. I'm a bit heavy on science fiction right now, partly because if I ever get round to writing a novel, it'll probably be SF, and partly because I'm going through a phase of falling out with contemporary literary fiction. (Atwood and Roth are safe, I'm not sure about the rest.) I've read almost all Terry Pratchett (that is, all but the Death ones, which don't do much for me); should reread Patrick O'Brian and Anthony Powell this year. Oh, and I seriously prefer Kingsley to Martin. [That was written in 2008: the novel will still be SF, but as of 2009 I'd been reading more non-fiction, mostly a lot of stuff about Hitler and (other stuff about) East Germany and the Berlin Wall. [That got a bit old too. I went through a big Nixon phase in summer 2009.] So ladies, for a night of sparkling conversation, you know where to come.

I blog too much elsewhere to bother doing any here (besides regarding kink, I have nothing to report at the moment, and if I ever do, that'll be private). At the last count, I appeared on four blogs (two group efforts and two others, the latter two I coded myself, which is why they're far from perfect). I take photographs too.

I'm a cat person. I've had as many as three at once (all strays who wandered in). The one I used to have in my picture was FIV+ (Feline Immunodeficiency Virus positive), so I couldn't have any others at the same time, and I grieved his very quick decline and demise for months. Right now, I have two - Grace, a female found on the web by a former Domme and Leonard, a kitten Grace picked up and I fed so often he moved in. Others include Lucinda (Leonard's mum, who eats his food), Asbo, who really lives next door, but sleeps on my bed at night, Drax, Asbo's shyer sister, who sleeps under my bed, and Leonard's mate noisy cat (I ran out of names). Slight update to that: I've decided that Lennie's mate is his dad, because he's the only unneutered male I know of and because they sound similar. Therefore, he's now called Ambassador Sarek.

This still isn't right; now it seems altogether too vanilla, and still written from without rather than within. And doubtless much too much information. So below is the the kink version. Except I moved it to the top.

Eye colour: Blue   Hair colour: Brown   Height: 6ft 1in   Weight: 11st 2lb   BMI: 20.4  

This profile was last updated on 13 Apr 11, 7:28 PM.

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