Sensitive, intelligent submissive man offers good conversation and loyalty. With the right treatment and training I may even learn to please You in the way You deserve.

I want an outwardly vanilla relationship with someone sane. I know I'm submissive; not into dressing up (and not really all that keen on leather), and not crazy about pain. However a lady who knew she was the boss in the relationship, and emphasised that with occasional discipline would be a dream come true. Oh, of course, you can be on top.

VANILLA/REAL VERSION (LONG):

OK I've been peeking in here and not doing much for too long. I've looked at other profiles, and been pretty struck that women's are often far more detailed than men's. They're a lot more intimate too, as a rule. It's like these people know themselves.

So do I know myself? Not particularly. I remain hugely conflicted over the whole D/s thing. I believe in equality in pretty much everything, and I'm still struggling to tell the difference between snottiness and dominance.

About that equality thing, I'm an ex-Labour party member, and these days I'm a far from gruntled, curmugeonly leftish libertarian anarchist. Or something like that. Really I just vote tactically. I'm a vegetarian, though the sort of vegetarian who eats fish. I've been a non-meat eater (with very occasional, like less than once a year, blips) for just about half my life now. It started off as an ethical position and has sort of stagnated into a health one and pure habit.

Perhaps as a result of the above, I'm fairly healthy. I've seen another guy here mention marathons, and I've done 13 (I think; I lost count) with a best of 2:51 and a worst of 3:36 (partly through not training) after which I pretty much gave up. However, after several months of not training, I've started again, and am gradually improving. Yes it hurts some times. No I don't get off on it. This stuff is non-negiotiable. I'm pretty willing to change for a relationship, but there are things I won't do (and that includes missing Doctor Who on Saturdays). I have no tattooes and intend to stay that way. I have had an ear pierced, but really that's not me either. Dull, bordering on weird, I know.

I like music (indeed as someone once said, it has a far more pleasing sound than ... some other thing). I hate most radio. I'm a radio 4 listener, with radio 3 for music (though there is some stuff on radio 2 I actually admit to liking). I hate listing bands and whatever, because I always forget something I later turn out to like a lot, and at other times don't understand my previous taste (as in 'I said I liked the Fall, Christ, what was I thinking of?') and I had Phillip Glass on my iPod when cooking once and nearly lost my mind (I like Glass - and Steve Reich - a lot, but there are times when it drives you crazy).

Books. I read a lot, somewhere between a book a day and a book a week, depending. I'm a bit heavy on science fiction right now, partly because if I ever get round to writing a novel, it'll probably be SF, and partly because I'm going through a phase of falling out with contemporary literary fiction. (Atwood and Roth are safe, I'm not sure about the rest.) I've read almost all Terry Pratchett (that is, all but the Death ones, which don't do much for me); should reread Patrick O'Brian and Anthony Powell this year. Oh, and I seriously prefer Kingsley to Martin. [That was written over a year ago: the novel will still be SF, but lately I've been reading more non-fiction, mostly a lot of stuff about Hitler and (other stuff about) East Germany and the Berlin Wall. So ladies, for a night of sparkling conversation, you know where to come.

I blog too much elsewhere to bother doing any here (besides regarding kink, I have nothing to report at the moment, and if I ever do, that'll be private). At the last count, I appeared on four blogs (two group efforts and two others, the latter two I coded myself, which is why they're far from perfect). I take photographs too.

I'm a cat person. I've had as many as three at once (all strays who wandered in). The one in the picture was FIV+ (Feline Immunodeficiency Virus positive), so I couldn't have any others at the same time, and I'm still grieving his very quick decline and demise. Right now, I have two - Grace, a female found on the web by a former Domme and Leonard, a kitten Grace picked up and I fed so often he moved in. Others include Lucinda (Leonard's mum, who eats his food), Asbo, who really lives next door, but sleeps on my bed at night, Drax, Asbo's shyer sister, who sleeps under my bed, and Leonard's mate noisy cat (I ran out of names).

This still isn't right; now it seems altogether too vanilla, and still written from without rather than within. And doubtless much too much information. So below is the the kink version. Except I moved it to the top.