How many times have I re-written this? Too many. An indication of my slightly obsessive need to constantly improve myself, or evidence that I can't get my act together once and stick to it? You decide.

Me

Ok, so I'm totally Dom, yes, absolutely. Never switch, always dominant. I'm supposedly clever, funny (well I amuse the fuck out of me, and most of the time others seem to find me funny too, but one never knows, eh?), reasonably witty, down to earth, happy, solvent, occasionally sadistic, inventive, sane, sorted, etc … but then I would say that, wouldn't I?

I have something over 20 years experience with BDSM, but I don't think I know it all, and I'm always looking for new things to try. I enjoy girls who are experienced in BDSM matters, but I also enjoy showing new girls the ropes, as it were. I'm told I put girls at their ease quickly, which I find a good thing, and if you're unsure of your needs/wants, etc then I'm happy to experiment, within boundaries we agree on. That said, I've also taken part in some fairly extreme sessions in my time too, and I consider myself unshockable, but don't let that stop you trying.

I guess I'm what you'd call a “work hard, play hard” type … I work very hard, but I earn a pretty substantial income in the process, and as I'm something of a travel nut and petrol-head, this income tends to be spent on a) travel (France & Italy being my 2 current faves) b) fast cars and even faster bikes and c) eating out at nice places (although I'm also a skilled cook myself), often abroad.

I also draw a firm line between work and personal life, so I make sure I have downtime away from the business, including weekends, in order that a) I don't become a workaholic and b) I remain happy and relaxed, with plenty of time for fun. Fun is important to me, and I pursue it fairly keenly. I don't look my age, and sometimes I don't act it either – lord alone knows I should find speed, excitement and adrenaline less entertaining now than once I did, but I don't – I try to squeeze as much excitement out of every single day as I possibly can.

You

So what am I looking for? Well again I'm fairly complex, in that, while I have enjoyed, and continue to enjoy, some fairly extreme play, I also like being affectionate with girls I'm close to, and like things best when there's a strong relationship outside of BDSM, as well as plenty of kink within it.

In due course, I'd like to head a poly household, but for the moment I'm just enjoying my life, my work and my friends – I own a lovely young slave, see her regularly, and have a strong bond with her, so you'd need to be comfortable with that. I don't demand that my girls play together for me, but of course if you are bi, or have bi leanings and want to experiment with those feelings then that would be ideal, as my girl loves serving alongside other slaves.

I don't have some fantasy girl in my head, and then seek to mould that onto whoever I see; I don't have a “type”, therefore I tend to treat each person as an individual, and see where the journey takes us. As a rule though, the more submissive the better, but that's not an absolute, as I don't treat life as a black & white menu.

Personal hygiene is important to me; I'm not an obsessive-compulsive hand-washing type, but I expect and demand cleanliness, unless getting messy is part of the fun, and keep myself similarly clean.

I don't tolerate topping from the bottom. Cheeky is fine, fun is fine, but try bending me to your will and you'll be shown a cane or, for persistent offenders, the door. Why be Dom and not be in charge? No idea.

Anything else you want to know, just ask. Feel free to ping me in Yahoo (bastard_bear), but please, if you're up your own arse, looking for a wind-up, or have no SoH, please just pass on by. I'm genuine, and don't take kindly to having my time wasted. Curious is fine, wanting to ask questions is also fine, indeed encouraged.

So: fun, amusing, bright, occasionally wild, experienced, sane, solvent and genuine. What more could you want? Oh and modest. Yeah, that too. Sometimes.