Mug Shot - So you can recognise me at the munch

IC Name: nicad2 Joined: 27 Mar 2007 Last visit: 314 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: Portsmouth, UK Age: 55 Website: http://www.southdo...

I am a pansexual, polyamorous, sensualist, naturist and very gently dominant man, born Mayday 1956, I lived in Cowplain, near Portsmouth, Hants until Nov 2009. I was living alone after losing my partner at Christmas 2008 I am able to accommodate. I am now living in Portsmouth.

I am in a poly relationship with Rachel. We welcome others to join our poly kinky family.

Nota Bene: This profile is long for good reasons. If you genuinely want to get to know me, you need to read it all.

They won't (or wouldn't) let me put nude pictures on my profile here, so they are here. Stuff the pathetic CJIA!

I run the South Downs Munch and related Yahoo group. If you want to come by train from London, see our Kinky Train To Munch Page.

I am here to make friends of all genders, sexualities and orientations in the lifestyle and to find slaves and submissives, who will also be friends first! Real life only, no cyber.

If you are going to write to me, I ask that you please read all of this profile and take a look at the blogs too. Please note, all the likes and dislikes etc are from a Dom's point of view, i.e. you as subbie do the "likes housework", "lives for serving as maid/butler", "into cross-dressing" etc., not me! I only like it that way!

I was single, after previously being married for 3 decades, with four lovely children and then separated after we grew apart, having met as teenagers, then two relationships with lovely transsexual girls. One, which lasted 4½ years, I had offered to marry, but she was unable to move from her parents due to insecurities. The other was with Terri which has now ended, amicably, we are still friends, and she is still a trusted mod on the South Downs yahoo group which I run.

My desire is to create a rainbow kinky pansexual poly family, and am actively seeking slaves and submissives of various gendae for permanent positions, to take care of our needs and be looked after in return. What I seek will be total and absolute. Love will most certainly be an important part of what I seek, in the divine and sacred symbiosis of loving domination and sweet submission. Having recently lost my partner, I am also interested in finding a domme (GG or TS) who might love me and share our subbies with me as their mistress.

My sexual preferences are not defined by gender. I like slim or athletic, smooth, petite bodies and have a great love of androgyny, transsexuality and people of uncertain sex or sexuality. Small breasts are good on any sex, I much prefer them to large ones. Tomboy girls are a turn on as are butch lesbians. With males I am only interested if young, petite, smooth and lithe. Effeminate homosexuality is delicious. I am turned off by body hair (hate my own and may require a submissive or slave to wax it for me) and I cannot abide obesity in lovers. Fat friends are fine!

If your gender and / or sexuality are not of the mythical dichotomy, or you are creative with your gender presentation and sexuality, then I am likely to be more interested in you. My tastes are distinctly exotic. I love all races and gendae and revel in their delicious variety.

"Nature loves diversity and so do I".

My predilections are intensely sexually based, with gratification being the prime motivator to them. I like to satisfy others, but if their choice is only to satisfy me, that is OK too. Sexually, I have an unusually well developed libido and am able to sustain an erection for many hours in the right circumstances. I am also multi-orgasmic. Nymphomaniacs take note! One of my kinks is to put a sub with someone outside their natural sexuality. That's about as near as I come to actual sadism, though am willing to administer mild correction if required, but not really for my own pleasure. Whilst on the subject of kinks, exposing and displaying slaves or subbies for the pleasure of others is another one I have. Showing off my property! "Corrupting" innocent young heterosexuals into delicious homosexuality is a delight! As is "forcing" a gay subbie to copulate with someone of the opposite sex!

Please note: When I use the words "forcing" and "corruption", I do so in a kinky sense rather than a literal one. It has come to my notice that this can be misinterpreted, as was one of my posts on a yahoo group recently. I do not actually corrupt anybody; I just like to help people to experience harmless pleasures that they might not have opened their minds to without the encouragement of others. Nothing is non-consensual; all is done in a caring and loving way.

I have no sympathies whatsoever for political correctness. My thoughts are unconstrained by social conventions. I am a free thinker with a multi-dimensional sexual, moral, political and love ethos.

Pansexuality and Polyamory are not an excuse for indiscriminate shagging. I am not a swinger nor do I do one night stands. Sexual safety is paramount. I like being alive and I intend to stay that way indefinitely. I do not have Siberian Knob Rot nor do I have the Wombling Trods and I don't want to catch either. You will be vetted; I love my family, so you must be safe to be fluid bonded with me.

I came rather late in life to the lifestyle, having fought with my inner desires for many years until just a few years ago I finally understood the true meaning and morality of who and what I am and why it is right for me to be me, and why it is right for me to treat those who wish me to do those things in the way that they wish to be treated.

While I am now totally comfortable with my dominant desires and personality, I must emphasise that I am, by nature, a very gentle soul. I am intensely civilised, with a great appreciation of the finer things in life, music, the arts, the beauty of nature, so many hedonistic pleasures.

Intellectually, I have always identified an androgyny in myself, though if you check the censored nude picture here or uncensored on my yahoo profile you will see that I look completely male. That profile also points to a little web page I created, where, for the amusement of all, I have put a gender identity test (by Bem). In the spirit of openness, my Bem score is about 14, which surprised even me! I am quite happy about it though! I say intellectually, because I am referring to creativity as being a partly feminine ability. I am a designer, inventor, engineer, programmer and several other things. I also play the piano a little and hold a pilots licence.

Being dominant for me is not a part time thing nor just sexual. I have run my own affairs and business all my life, never had a boss and was a rebel throughout my education with a hatred of all authority, in fact, I am largely self educated. I am dominant by nature. I like, perhaps even need, to be in control. Yes, I have very occasionally wondered about giving up that control in a sexual environment, but I have found that it just doesn't work for me. I can have sex and love in an equal relationship, and have had for many years, but there was always something missing, the lack of control, that desire that frequently aroused me on hot summer nights to awake and gaze at my lover's beautiful body glistening naked in the warm moonlight, desiring to take her there and then but knowing that she would vociferously object.

And that objection is for me a complete and utter turn off. I am no rapist; I am simply not capable of it. My desire is for lovers of any sex who accept my need and willingly - even eagerly - submit to it. And in return, they will have my loyal love and devotion to giving them the pleasure of their desires and dreams while always taking care of them. In many ways, the master can be said to serve the submissive, in a loving relationship, which is what I seek.

A word about pain: I have no way to directly experience for myself the pleasure that some people get from pain and humiliation because I am not made that way. I have a rudimentary non-professional understanding of how the biological mechanism of production or release of endorphins and serotonin in the nervous system cause elation and pleasure, and from talking with submissives, I have a basic understanding of what makes some of them tick, though I am conscious that we are all different and therefore of how much I have to learn about anybody new who I interact with. Not being a sadist, I don't relish inflicting pain, to do so is a pure service. But I do enjoy giving pleasure by pain, and can handle crops, floggers and canes well.

Some (insane) people jump out of serviceable aircraft at high altitude and fall to earth suspended by string tied to sheets of thin material made from caterpillar secretions to get the same buzz as masochists. Others run marathons etc. The nearest I come to experiencing such things is from the exhilaration in doing things like driving a racing car at very high speed or flying an aeroplane. I recall one notable incident when driving home afterwards I had a huge feeling of elation, despite having had a minor emergency in the air that could have killed me, and the feeling of wanting to fly again as soon as possible. But another great pleasure in flying has always been the precision and control I exercised (I haven't flown for ages). I never wanted to risk my life and am afraid of heights so would never do a parachute drop unless the aircraft was on fire and about to explode.

I emphasise my kind and gentle nature, because, for me, inflicting pain is something I would not expect to enjoy doing. But I enjoy making someone feel good! For me, experiencing pain is a turn off, and I have a very low pain threshold because my body is super-sensitive. I even have around double the normal number of taste buds; I experience life with an intensity that can be almost overwhelming at times. Pain is unbearable for me, but pleasure is intoxicating rapture! My capacity for pleasure is exceptional.

I am not a sadist in any way at all. Most certainly, if my lover, or even a friend, asks me to inflict pain, I am happy to do it, and do it well. My pleasure is entirely derived from giving pleasure in that instance, rather than direct sadism.

For me, being dominant is more about control and being trusted with that control; a great honour to be treasured, properly respected and very highly prized! There are many ways that control can be exercised - I won't bother with a salacious list here as I am sure everyone has a perfectly good imagination! But it is that control and submission to it that makes everything work for me. And I am willing to take that to the ultimate level of Master / slave relationships, with the right people.

I am a lifelong naturist, so the photos on my profile and web site (which you can find from my yahoo profile) are nude. My face is not clearly shown as I am very well known in my industry internationally and I sell into various gruesome totalitarian countries where nudity, homosexuality and kink are punishable by death. Email me and I will send you a clear face picture.

I am always happy to make friends in the lifestyle, whether or not for sexual activity and can be found at such as the Guildford Munch, 3rd Wednesday lunch time each month. Email me for details if you want to come along. And of course at the South Downs Munch! Can also be found at The Old Vic in Portsmouth many Saturdays.

I am actively looking for slaves, and am very happy to get to know potential candidates. I am in no hurry, and will take my time to select exactly the right people, who can benefit from the kind of family I want to create, as well as bringing the right things to us. I am firmly of the view that a D/s or M/s relationship cannot work unless there is an underlying vanilla one that also works. So although I may be readily willing to meet you, further activity will depend on further interaction. I am not your instant Dom. Good things may come to those who are patient.

My web page tells more about me and has uncensored nude images and links to all the groups and web sites I am on where you can read my posts over several years.

http://www.geocities.com/nicad_2/aboutme/

please note the above link will go offline on 26/10/09 and I may not have time to replace it as I am moving to Littlehampton with Terri. The new personal site will be findable from here: http://www.southdownsbdsm.co.uk/public_profiles/...

There is also the psychological gender identity test by Bem, mentioned above, for those curious about the truth about themselves - Dare you take the test to discover your true sexual identity? Only do so if the knowledge won't harm you! OK, consider it more fun than serious, but it does seem to be surprisingly accurate!

If you have read this far and are still interested in me, you may be one of those I might invite to walk naked with me into the exotic and steamy forests of erotic love and deep human desire...

With love, David.

P.S. I do have the odd rant, especially about politics. We in our lifestyle, above all people, need to take very careful note of what is happening in our country today and actively oppose it!

I hate the way that this country is now a surveilance society, no longer being policed with consent, instead by ubiquitous cameras and sneaky tax gathering under the guise of "fines", and new legislation that reduces our human rights at every turn, with "political correctness" the nasty "newspeak" buzz word of politics today. "Anti-Terror" laws are being used to stop people taking innocent tourist pictures, even train spotters get arrested for using cameras. And these laws make not one jot of difference to our real safety, much the opposite.

When you stop policing with consent, it is a very slippery slope into a police state, and one that Britain is already sliding inexorably downwards on.

I am so pissed off at the new CJIA that I have decided to include this link to an illegal image under the act: http://www.smokingarchive.com/047.JPG Click it at your peril! I did and I have a copy on my PC! Sod the CJIA! I won't abide by it and they can't arrest us all!

You can read more about it from the spanner trust here: http://www.spannertrust.org/extremeporn

I also recommend signing, as I did, the petition against it here (under my real name): http://petitions.pm.gov.uk/extreme-images/

I also oppose the use of ID cards and the database state, see here: http://www.no2id.net/

Lastly, you may find some of my posts a little controversial! I speak my mind and I will always stand up for personal freedom and human rights for all human beings on this planet regardless of race, gender or creed.

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This profile was last updated on 10 Feb 11, 11:12 AM.

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