The Lighthouse

IC Name: lushvelvet Joined: 13 Sep 2006 Last visit: 15 minutes ago Sex/gender: Female Location: North Yorkshire, UK Age: 48

I'd like to be in a loving, long-term relationship where we make each other happy.

Oh… you were hoping for more details? Well - I'm submissive, loyal, sensitive (sometimes overly ), sensual, a hopeless romantic... and tall. I'm drawn inexorably to dominant men who are emotionally intelligent, quietly assertive, calm, romantic, firm, professional, funny (ha ha, not peculiar!), devilishly deviant... and tall. It would be lovely to meet someone who's smart enough to see through the confident, assertive, extrovert mask I have to wear every day, supportive enough for me to feel able to take it off, and strong enough to enjoy what's behind it.

Kink-wise, I'm relatively inexperienced but suspect that I'm at the BDSM “lite” end of the spectrum. I'm not a masochist and have no interest in either casual play or "the scene".

For me, D/s rests in the psychology of the power exchange between two people who share an emotional connection. I enjoy head-fucks, cuddles, psychological control, sensual play, restraint, tasks, protocol... and kissing, LOTS of kissing I've dabbled with, and enjoyed, flogging, wax play and spanking. There are other things I haven't yet tried but am curious to experience.

I don't (necessarily *g*) want to spend hours in deep debate with a partner but I do need to be intellectually stimulated and challenged. I need to respect your mind before I can respect anything else. Beat me at Scrabble, show me a new way of thinking about a topic, or teach me something... mmm

Above all I need to feel secure, safe and cared for, and to know that I please you.

I'm single. For those that are hard of thinking that means I'm not married/ living with/ otherwise committed to another human being. If you are *not* single - we are *not* compatible.

I'm self-employed and can "do what I do" from pretty much anywhere. Location is therefore not a critical issue - but you'll have to be a very special man to tempt me to move from my rather lovely part of God's own county

There is more to a relationship, and to life, than kink and I enjoy spending time with friends and family, laughing till I cry at Eddie Izzard or Billy Connolly, sailing, dogs, being involved in community projects, adrenaline rushes, pick 'n' mix sweeties, music, reading, singing, driving too fast...

For me, D/s is the icing on the cake of a solid, non-kinky relationship. It's not the cake. But it does make the cake so much more delicious

"When I find ground to rest my feet on. I will lay my weapons down..."

"There is nothing more erotic than being understood." Molly Haskell

Eye colour: Hazel   Hair colour: Brunette   Height: 5ft 9in  

This profile was last updated on 21 Jul 11, 10:43 PM.

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