I already have someone very special. I'm married, and completely committed, to Black_Narcissus - her body is the first thing I see in the morning and the last thing I see at night. And the best thing I see all day. I am proud of the fact that she has formally expressed the need and desire to submit to me and to accept my help and instruction. I know that she trusts me and everything else follows from that. It makes me so proud when we are out and both men and women look at her and I see that they want what she has chosen to give only to me. Such a gift is not to be accepted lightly; possession is something I rejoice in, ownership is something I don't want and which, in any case, I would never allow her to offer even if she were to consider it. (This is no criticism of anyone whose relationship does encompass such a step, it's just not for me or for her.)

We share everything else in our lives - books, films, music, taste in men and women.

Neither of us is interested in sexually stepping outside our relationship in any way which would exclude the other but we are interested in talking about it, enhancing it, fantasising, learning and meeting others who understand.

But, as you all know, sexuality and love are complex things. Dominance and submission start in the head and end there, and the physical is an emphasis - although a wonderful one! It is not a contradiction or paradox to occasionally want the same gorgeous submissive who receives my guidance to experience the satisfaction of control; our feelings of trust and security mean that I can help her to explore and enjoy her own feelings of power. (Why would anyone want a partner whose desire to submit is not a reflection of their strength and confidence?)

The dynamic within our relationship is set, but we are now actively looking for a submissive to serve us as a dominant couple. TV would be of particular interest. London area preferred. We know exactly what we need and what we expect and our requirements would be carefully explained at the outset. Satisfactory service is, of course, its own reward but "payment" for exemplary behaviour might, for example, include being allowed to accompany us to a fetish event to be of service to us there.

"Will you take me slowly? / Will you lead me all the way? / Will you sing me your songs / Until I am ready for the love that kills?" (The Waterboys)

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