feb 2012

IC Name: lil_miss_shalla Joined: 10 Mar 2011 Last visit: 30 hours ago Sex/gender: Female Location: london, UK Age: 32 Website: http://fetlife.com...

Core of my profile updated 20-2-12

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See bottom for any new updates including

* in london 25th to the 28th of march and again the 2nd to the 16th of april

I warn you… I write a lot because I want you to make sure that you understand a portion of who I am LONG before you decide to contact me. If you CAN'T read to the bottom or WON'T read to the bottom… don't contact me. Half assed people need not apply…

Here is a brief summery to see if you are interested in reading the rest:

I am a switch, a pure switch and I am looking to strengthen my core. This means right now I want to submit, to learn who I am as a sub, LATER I will want to do the same and Domme but that isn't now.

I am NOT looking for any subs to play with, I don't know what to do with you now and I am just not ready yet. Friends are fine but do not expect me to take control of you.

I WANT a Dom… MY Dom, not someone already with a sub or gf or wife. I want to be the center of your world even if I am not in London full time. What I offer is more than most full time partners ever give and I am worth it.

I WANT this person to be my lover, I deserve to have their attention, affection, passion, kisses, touch, and dammit I deserve to cum and scream and squirt! I deserve to get back what I give!

I am complex and deep and very open.

If you want a friend I am perfect for that but you will be judged if you want to Dom me.

If you have any questions I will gladly answer them.

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Now on to the main body of my profile:

I am an American living in France, I visit London a few weeks a month for several reasons. The most important has been trying to get my driver's license, I am almost done with that. Once that is complete I will continue to come to the UK but I am not limited to London.

I am married only because he will not give me a divorce and I am not financially stable to walk away for good, I also have children and they all (him and kids) stay in France. When I am in France I am a mother, when I am in London I am a dirty lil slut looking for her perfect lover.

I keep France life and the things I do in the UK very separate.

I have been neglected and repressed and faithful for the last 10 years, the marriage has been opened so that I can stop the damage that has been done to me and heal.

I will no longer deny who I am, what I want and I need to learn once again what all that means. I stopped having fantasies, I no longer know what I want and I need to change that. All I know is I am highly sexual and kinky... now I have to define that.

I started learning how the mind works at a very young age, by the time I was 13 I was on Alt with fake information trying to learn what sex and bdsm were to the members there and then how this could relate to me and what I wanted from my future. I wasn't interested in playing or cyber, I wanted to learn.

For the past 19yrs I have been studying the mental side to bdsm and watching it change and develop, being with a vanilla husband kept me from experimenting but now I am free to play. I have been trying to find someone I can TRUST to play with and learn what I am into.

I am on a number of adult sites, I like the attention when I post a naughty picture or blogs and the comments amuse me. I use fetlife the most as it is free and easy but am also on alt, human pets and adultworks (twitter too if you want my random madness @spacecheetos) names on all sites very

I also work with EroticMeet.net helping them promote their site to artists, authors, performers and other creative minds.

I am looking for two things out of this site:

1st and most important: Friends… I have NO ONE in France, so I need to make real life friends when in London, not just on the net. I want people that are more than just fair weather friends, its great once in a while but if I invest in a person and make them a friend… then I plan on bending over backwards for them if and when needed. It would be nice to get something more solid back for what I give. I don't like fakes and flakes that start off good and then vanish.

2nd thing I am looking for is a lover and potentially a Dom to help me explore my switch sides. I need someone to help me better understand the submissive side that I have which has never been allowed to be used. I know I CAN submit and I want to but the average person just brings out my snarky side or the nails/claws which is not the effect that they want.

Best example of that is this one guy saying he wanted to hang me up by my tits... yeah I don't think so…

I am looking for sex but I am not easy, I have a high sex drive and I am very picky about who I will have sex with. I want quality not quantity. I am a good lover, I give a lot and I want something in return. I want to feel wanted, important and you better make me cum, if I am not screaming in pleasure and squirting… then you aren't trying hard enough.

I have been told by men that they have never cum from oral and I have changed that more than once. Some men say they can only orgasm when they ejaculate and I have proven otherwise. I take great pleasure and pride in satisfying my partner and so far very few have satisfied me and I am pissed about that. Change it! …and this is about as Domme as I get right now lol

As for being a switch… I am very much a switch, please don't give me any crap about switches not being real or being confused. I know that I am a switch and that I am bi, anything else can be open to negotiation.

I label myself a 'core' switch... that is to say, I don't switch and have a more Domme side or more sub side… I am a switch, period. I CAN Domme but choose not to (right now more a top than anything, slight difference) and I CAN submit but will ONLY do that for the right person.

I like power play, I like taking control when someone doesn't expect me to, I like that lil rush of pushing someone to their limit and then handing them back the control… I like a bit of chaos and a whole lot of passion.

I am an incredibly sweet but a snarky person. I do try to be respectful and take time to get to know people before molesting anyone, for some reason people see me as a submissive for that but really I just want to know I am wanted by the person I am perving over *giggles*

I tend to get a lot of subs interested in me and it drives me up a fucking wall!! I'm not ready for subs! I have spent the last 14 yrs being a mom to some amazing but seriously demanding children, all of my “DOMME POWERS” have been spent keeping them in line! You know that guitar on my picture thread, it's on fire if you pay attention… I burnt it because my son stole from me one too many times.

I am kind, caring, amazingly loving and I build people up instead of tearing them down…but you fuck with me… you will regret it… period!

Because my life is complicated I spend most of the day on the net helping others, healing lost souls and being a safe port in the storm for people of various situations.

I have learned to love deeply, give my heart away for free to those that need unconditional love. I am not in love with anyone and until my life finds balance I don't think I can fall in love. Way too complicated and I don't want or need that… but if it happens...

I hate to hurt people and I hate humiliation, my first 12 yrs were spent being humiliated for being a red head and for my unusual name. I learned after a while that it wasn't my fault, I didn't do anything wrong, it was them…. But even today it still haunts me and it shouldn't and I choose to be a better person. Loving, kind, caring, trustworthy…

I choose to be this instead of becoming them and hurting others.

If I could be rented out for aftercare I would make a killing like that. I love helping others and get a high from it. Hell for every ounce of relaxation a person gets from my massage, I get back the same and walk away just as relaxed.

I want to be the person you can come to and feel loved, needed, wanted, protected from the world so you can relax... someone else can hurt you, humiliate you or you can do those things to others but I want to be the one that holds you tight and plays with your hair, gives massages, melts away the crap of the day… cause that's who I am.

My kink is touch, I NEED to touch and be touched, to give and get attention. I have an oral fixation so you will often see me with a lollipop in my mouth or biting my lips a lot.

I am bipolar but not bat shit crazy... though it does mean I can't tolerate drugs around me, they cause issues with my meds (also weed makes it impossible for me to cum)

I don't like the front of my neck touched unless I invite you and no tickling. I control myself very well but the first instinct I have for those is to rip your eyes out through your balls or pussy. I have escaped being raped 3 times and I have had people try to kill me, all unrelated so I think I am justified to say back the fuck off from my neck…

As for the tickling, most people just poke and that hurts instead of tickle. If you do manage to tickle me I will laugh… and I won't be able to stop… then I will panic and when I panic I don't get scared, I get pissed off and I lash out. So fair warning, I am not playing on this.

Now to the sweeter side:

I am extremely bouncy, very playful and a loyal friend… yeah I know that sounds like a dog lol (I am not a puppy) but the attributes we put to dogs seem to fit me very well. I am extremely mutable.

I can go from intellectual conversation (about most topics though some I refuse to debate, religion and government are the worst) to ooooooZOMGshiiiinnnnnyyyyyy!!! and anything in between.

I really should post the webcomic that explains this so well, the oooshiny bit. I am a dork, a goof and a gamer. I love webcomics and roleplaying (I don't mean kink lol) and would love to get back into larp'ing

I love to watch people, learn who they are and try to understand it and then figure out how that applies to me. I don't judge but I do analyze.

One example is the erotica expo 2010 (also went to 2011). I spent most of the day watching people, bounding off like a demented pixie and spending time with this guy “Spot the dog” and giving him scritchies… Google YouTube video "shalla meets spot the dog" to see what I mean.

Bah I could ramble on forever

If you have questions send me a note, if you need a photographer let me know, if you need someone to bum around with and be silly... OOO PICK ME!!

As for things I don't want:

I don't want to do age play or take care of someone... I have kids I don't need the sort of lover that is like another kid… I refuse.

No needles, no blood, no scat, no scars… everything else open to negotiation London dates: 25th to the 28th of march and again the 2nd to the 16th of april

Yahoo messenger:lil_red_aw   Eye colour: hazel   Hair colour: red   Height: 5ft  

This profile was last updated on 22 Mar 12, 7:12 PM.

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