Ultimately I wish to be part of a relationship which encompasses this lifestyle with a normal family and work life, and where the dynamic is constant but private to us.

There will be rules, framework, discipline and lots and lots of fun too. He will be more realist that fantasist, he will understand I am able to make my own decisions, and do not need micromanagement, but that I thrive in a framework. He will encourage me to succeed as my own person, not solely as his shadow, and will enjoy my successes with me, as I would for him.

What does he get from me, simply put - everything I am able to give of me. Not instantly, not static, but over time evolving as the relationship deepens, his rules, his direction, his choosing..

Original post..***Oct 2005*** Hi, i am going to update this as i go along i think,.,,

I'm not new to D/s...have about 6 years experience, but at a fairly inexperienced level, mainly just from a 4 year relationship with my previous Master.

We have split for "life" reasons, and are trying to remain friends..

i have a very happy "nilla" life with family, friends and a career (just no partner), and am not looking for a quick fix, or play only relationship..

(For clarity,. i do not seek to become used as a couples plaything either, so please dont bother to mail me for your man, thats not my thing at all! - apologies, but have a few of those mails recently)

if you'd like to know anything else please feel free to ask...i'm happy to chat about most things, but am looking for a serious relationship, so would prefer not to get into sex related discussions too early, its more important that we have other things in common first!

oh, one more thing, i am 5 ft 8, size 22, and happy with who i am !