I'm basically a sub. That is, I do enjoy topping every now and then, but I'm far more of a submissive than I am a dominant. I don't get out on the scene much, but I do go to the BBB most months, and love it!

Much as I like the physical aspects of spanking, to get the most out of being on the wrong end of a strap, cane or paddle the beating must be placed in context. Maybe I've done something wrong, or have failed to please in some other way. I must be punished, and the reasons for my punishment are spelled out in no uncertain terms before the dreaded command to 'bend over'. Naturally, this can be reinforced between strokes too.

Domination is always so much more satisfying when the mind is dominated before the body...