~*~ Me ~*~

I am – a happy and cheerful, single, capable, sane and independent woman, but one that also happens to be somewhat submissive, yes, it is possible for a submissive to be capable and independent and have no issues. I am always seen with a smile on my face, and I love to laugh and have fun. I am a pretty large lady, but i prefer the term Reubenesque or 'comfy to bounce on' rather than BBW! I am very shy, and this leads me to giggle a lot and be quite quiet conversationally when I first meet people. I am not very confident in crowded situations but that does not mean i am anti-social, i do like to go out, but i won't be striving to be the centre of attention in any way, i don't like phones either! i hate phonecalls, texting is good though.

When I get free time; my primary hobby is photography, i am a photo bore! At weekends i can be found driving off around the country looking for places to take photos, it is now my greatest love and I am very passionate about it. I primarily shoot landscapes, but recently have started taking portraits and doing more adult shots: feel free to take a look at my regular photo gallery or here for Adult pics (which will only be viewable if you have a flickr account that allows you to view adult images).

I swim and like to walk: but not uphill! after living in the fens my calf muscles are only suited for walking on flat ground and I have a tendency to get altitude sickness when I mount a kerb. I like classical music but my favourite band is Marillion. I own my own house and car, i work and have two active children aged 10 and 8, who are away most weekends.

~*~ The Bdsm part and what i am looking for ~*~

I am naturally and only submissive. I have been actively involved in the 'real life' BDSM lifestyle for about 9 years, and online for longer. I have been aware of my 'different' inclinations since i was about 6 years old. I identify far more as a submissive/slave than a masochist/bottom and would like to find more of a Ds dynamic than an s&m based relationship. Whilst i understand that pain comes hand in hand with BDSM, it is a tool only to achieve submission and not something i actively enjoy at all in itself. My idea of BDSM is probably more sexually and nurture orientated than anything else, so someone with nymphomaniac qualities and stamina would be welcomed with open arms.

I am looking for a clinically sane, single, Dominant Male, someone roughly aged between 30 and 45, give or take a couple of.. (but not 20) years, for a monogamous relationship. You should be purely Dom, not a switch: i don't have anything against switches, but that relationship dynamic just won't work for me, i can't switch - i have tried and failed, and i therefore couldn't meet that need in you, i would always be wondering if you wanted more than i could offer.

When you contact me; the level of respect shown, will find the same level of respect returned.

It is something of a cliché now, but the sentiment is so true.

Anais Nin ~ I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.

Well done if you managed to make it this far! i look forward to hearing from you The list of interests is below, it is not fully comprehensive!