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Profile:fen_fatale
Created on:17 May 2004
Last visit:4 hours ago
Country:UK
Location:Cambs (The Fens)
Sex/gender:Female
Homepage:http://fensnapz.re...
Age:34
Hair colour:Blonde
Eye colour:Blue
Height:5ft 4in
Ad title:Seeking single Male Photographer Dom.
Sex/gender wanted:Male
Ad updated:53 days ago

~*~ Me ~*~

I am – a happy and cheerful, single, sane and independent submissive woman. I am always seen with a smile on my face, and I love to laugh and have fun. I am a pretty large lady, but i prefer the term Reubenesque or 'comfy to bounce on' rather than BBW! I am very very shy, and this leads me to giggle and blush a lot and be quite quiet conversationally when I first meet people and i do not like to be the centre of attention in any way.

In my free time; my passion is photography, I primarily shoot landscapes, but recently have started taking portraits and doing more adult shots: If you would like to see my pics, the homepage should redirect you.

I swim and like to walk: but not uphill! after living in the Fens my calf muscles are only suited for walking on flat ground and I have a tendency to get altitude sickness when I mount a kerb. I like classical music but my favourite band is Marillion. I own my own house and car, I work and have two active children, who are away most weekends.

(Time for a nickname clarification because I am getting ticked off with being thought of as being a bit blonde and simple! I live just on the outskirts of the Fens, (The flat wetlands of East Anglia) The name is a pun of the word Femme Fatale. So, I truly do not need a lesson in how to spell it, or another wikipedia link on what a femme fatale is.)

~*~ The Bdsm part ~*~

I am naturally and only submissive. I have been actively involved in the 'real life' BDSM lifestyle for about 10 years, and online for longer. I have been aware of my 'different' inclinations since i was about 6 years old and have had various levels of experience from bottom, sub to 24/7 slave and yes in the time i have been in this scene i have experienced and tried it all. But i now identify far more as a submissive/slave than a masochist/bottom and prefer a Ds dynamic to an s&m based relationship. I will only act within the bounds of consensuality and will not ever accept violence as being acceptable within my relationship. I have no baggage, no issues, and no past traumas that i need to recreate, and nothing at all to prove, i will respect and expect to be respected back. Given the right man - i will offer him the entire world and try to give him more. I am not a doormat: i am a human who happens to have a natural respect for Dominant (but not domineering or controlling) men and i will demonstrate this around you at all times. I am not a brat, not a trophy and not immature, and as such i have no time for role playing or silly whimsical "you must be punished" games. If you have ever known or appreciated a natural, genuine submissive woman then you will understand what i mean.

I am now totally out of the public scene and lifestyle and it is increasingly unlikely that you will see me at events anymore. I feel that i have nothing in common now with half of the new people coming into the scene, and i am sadly disillusioned with it all, i feel that the lifestyle has totally lost its focus and its direction, has become too political based and cliquey. i hold the tenets of BDSM as = honour, integrity, empathy, mutual respect, community, safety, sanity and above all - consensuality.

With regards to relationships, i am finding that i am increasingly busy and bogged down with life at present, and am starting to reconsider whether i have the actual time for a relationship, or even whether the scene holds what i want anymore, whilst i would love someone to be intimate with, to look up to, look after and cuddle, i can't even seem to find the time to answer memos or have an msn conversation! Real Life is taking over.

However, If... i had the time, then i would be looking for a clinically sane, single, Dominant Male, someone roughly aged between 30 and 45, give or take a couple of.. (but not 20) years, for a monogamous relationship. So, ideally - Johnny Depp, 6ft, Dominant, dressed as a Vampire in Old English finery, with long hair and a goattee, with impeccable manners, charm and charisma, a cracking sense of humour, a love of children, a respectable job, a passion for photography, a black belt in Shotokan Karate, self assured, faithful and honest, who can play the piano and adores only me.... hmmm Not asking for much really there then! (methinks i could die single!)

It is something of a cliché now, but the sentiment is so true.
Anais Nin ~ I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.

(Please read the cautions on About Personal Ads before responding to an advert. In particular, "Flat 51, 17 Holywell Hill, St Albans, AL1 1DT" is a mailbox address used by a persistant scam artist.)

 
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