Another one of those submissive males in a long term vanilla relationship cluttering up the place.

Unfortunately this part of my nature only fully revealed itself after I had made other choices in my life which are now very difficult to undo.

I'm fully aware that some people will regard what I'm doing as cheating or dishonest at the very least, and that is fine; but, as far as I'm concerned, I'm not ready to give up a big part of my life for something that I don't yet know nearly enough about.

My journey has been stalled for a long time but I'm now trying to take a few faltering steps forward.

Anyway, with the self-conscious defence out of the way, on to more profily matters.

Me

I'm a 46 year old Scot, exiled in London. My heart will always be in the Highlands despite the fact that my hometown is more synonymous with knives and Buckfast than with hills and heather.

Motto

Never demand. Don't ever expect. Strive always to be pleasing, and live in hope.

Interests

Keeping fit. I've just started training for my third marathon and if all goes to plan I'll bag my final Munroe before the end of 2106.

Literature. I'm concentrating on the classic novels at the moment but I do fit in the odd biography.

Cinema. I particularly enjoy the femme fatale filled films of the forties and fifties and anything Hitchcockian.

Art. I'm no expert but I'm inspired by anything done with talent, skill and integrity.

Music. See art.

Eating out, travel and all the other usual suspects.

More Interesting Interests

The divine Dominant Female. My Live Journal is an ongoing record of my enthrallment.

The other interests, which appear below as a result of my ticking various boxes, are aspects of the lifestyle which positively appeal to me; however, they only appeal as a very minor adjunct to my desire and need to serve. I wouldn't expect anyone to believe me if I said that “playing” holds no attraction whatsoever; but that will always be secondary to my desire to be useful, pleasing and inspiring.

Self Analysis

I have to confess that I spend far too much time thinking about things as apposed to actually doing them. I'm obsessively self-analytical, can be ridiculously anal (as in being compelled to immediately clarify here that I mean personality wise rather than sexually) and am naively content with my idealistic notions of the fundamental magnificence of the Dominant Female.

Why I'm Here

I view my submissive nature as a gift and as a very positive trait that helps give me the strength and motivation to always try and do the right thing. But I want it to evolve into something deeper, and if that is to happen I need to learn.

So I'm here to be educated, to converse, to make friends and, who knows, perhaps make some inspiring connections.

I have a ridiculous aversion to appearing pushy or forward and so it is extremely unlikely that I will send an unsolicited memo to anyone. If I am interested or intrigued by you, you'll probably spot me hanging around whistling, looking at my shoes and mumbling to myself. Ironically, I find pushiness and forwardness an extremely attractive trait in a female, so please feel free to come over and stomp on my shoes.

The Commandments

An explanation.

1. Thou shalt not lie to a Domina.

2. Thou shalt not lie to yourself.

3. Thou shalt not demand, cajole, manipulate or even expect anything from a Domina.

4. Thou shalt never define a Lady simply by Her dominant nature.

5. Thou shalt never define yourself simply as a submissive.

6. Thou shalt always live up to your commitments.

7. Thou shalt never cleave thyself to any orthodoxy.

8. Thou shalt never take yourself or this world too seriously.

9. Thou shalt never project your desires onto a Domina.

10. Thou shalt always strive to be pleasing, open, courteous, helpful, intelligent, respectful, entertaining, honourable, sensible and sensitive.

Particular Interests

An explanation.

To serve a Lady who not only expects it, but who relishes being served.

To be the inspiration of laughter and pleasure and lust and sadism.

To evolve both as a man and as a submissive under loving but strict tutelage.

To be known utterly, to be understood completely and to be accepted totally.

To develop mentally through the ardent study of a Lady's passions.

Interests

Humiliation