Lesbian/dyke (please note that this is a statement rather than a challenge).

Playful, a dry sense of humour, occasionally bratty, a liking for detail and a tendency towards irreverent. I have my own finely tuned bullshit detector and a very low tolerance for dishonesty, rudeness and bad behaviour. However, given the right kind of opportunity and encouragement I can be a very bad grrl indeed.

My taste varies from gentle sensory play and sensory deprivation to heavy pain. I'm a bit of a pain slut and do SM rather than DS and I identify as a bottom not a sub, but I will sub for the right person, I'm very versatile. I'm a bit of an exhibitionist and I love playing in public. I don't switch, I do enough topping in everyday life. I'm especially fond of floggers and canes. I'm told I squeal prettily and that I'm a very responsive bottom.

I would like to meet friendly, creative and amusing women and FTM who are comfortable in their skin and who possess a sense of humour. I agree with Dossie Easton "sex is nice and pleasure is good for you". I'm looking for honesty, integrity and women in the lesbian SM/BDSM scene. I'm not interested in a monogamous relationship, but other nonmonogamous relationships are possible. I'm looking for kinky friends, fuckbuddies and play partners. I'm especially interested in meeting sadistic tops who want to play.

I'm sane (relatively speaking), solvent (after a fashion) and sorted (everyone carries baggage). I don't smoke or do drugs. I drink socially but I never drink and play. Nor do I play with people who have been drinking or who are doing drugs.

Nice manners, soft hands, appreciation of occasional brattiness and the ability to make a decent cup of tea are essential. Experience is not important (except with the tea), everyone starts somewhere.

As well as the SM, I appreciate the ridiculous and enjoy reading, music and intelligent conversation, especially over a nice cup of Earl Grey tea. I like body art and have a couple of very nice tattoos and some piercings, with plans for more of both.

I like people who use the words lesbian, dyke, queer and pervert positively. Genderfuck, ftm and mtf welcome. I really am serious about you being female (unless FTM) and doing SM.

No mixed couples. I don't play with male-born men. I don't swap pictures and unsolicited pictures of yourself naked is a turn off.

I have been known to supply baked goods at SM Dykes stalls at community events around the country, but I don't generally swap recipies on a first date.

If you want to find out more about me you need to tell me about yourself and your BDSM/SM interests, especially if your profile is brief. I don't negotiate in role. If I don't know you and we have no mutual friends, then I would expect you to play at public venues, at least at first. I'm quite friendly and I don't bite, unless specifically requested to do so.

I need to feel a connection with someone to develop something offline and chat via IM is most welcome.

Thank you for your interest.

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