Bugger... it's gone again!!

IC Name: chartreuse Joined: 26 Jan 2006 Last visit: 5 hours ago Sex/gender: Female Location: BA (Bath), UK

Updated 18th January 2012 - IC is a great resource and it's a place where I have learned so much about myself and others... when I first joined I felt free, the world was my lobster - I was embarking on a new chapter in my life.

Well, I have had enough experiences, chatted with, met, played with and have had enough encounters/relationships with male "submissives", throughout the past 6 years, to know that the sort of single/unattached/unmarried man I want to spend quality time with, in a D/s relationship, either does not exist or is very well hidden, so I am hanging up my gloves and am no longer going to pursue the dream.

I am unsure whether I will decide to actively return to D/s (although I am D/s through and through, always will be - no matter what sort of relationship I have) - I am feeling rather jaded about the whole D/s thing (as far as most of the submissive male members in IC portray it, anyway) and it seems that I got hold of totally the wrong end of the stick and held on to it throughout my journey... the wonderful journey of discovery which led to a dead-end.

I will happily maintain the friendships that I have developed and hope to meet some of those I have chatted with but not yet met. I may even go along to a club every now and then, 'cos I like dressing up and socialising BUT... I am not the sort of woman who gets a kick out of hurting people, servicing their desires or being kinky simply because I can/am.

I believed what I read/heard about D/s, I sought a male submissive with a "D/s-service" orientation... I have yet to encounter it for real (I am not referring to the play that goes on, anyone can do that when the mood takes them, it happens in normal relationships, too).

I have always wanted "REAL" and mostly I found "FAKE/PRETEND/UNREALISTIC" - I don't think I will be fortunate enough to encounter the sort of man that I want, here - if I do no-one will be more amazed than I.

I am not having a hissy-fit or throwing my toys out of the pram, I am just accepting that what I was looking for isn't possible.

All I can say is... As far as the "male submissive" is concerned - there have, for me, been more disappointments than discoveries/successes. I have lost count of the number of men I have met via this site (my contacts list has been shaved and not all of those I met had been added to it, so don't think (not for one moment) that it is a true reflection of how many people I have met during the past few years) and so very few of those men have been capable of delivering what they promise.

If a sub can't submit then a Domme can't dominate.

If a person isn't honest with themselves they won't be honest with others.

It's probably time to move on to the next chapter in my life...

Take care... the world is full of weird people.

C x

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