I'm a single (divorced) female - 51, independent, confident, level-headed, voluptuous, strong-minded, highly sexually motivated, private (most of the time), reasonably intelligent/attractive and open-minded about many things but not ALL. I have strong opinions on things that matter to me and am not scared to voice them.

(I'm a Domme who occasionally has bottom tendencies; that means that I'm dominant with a slutty side - I sometimes enjoy allowing someone to "do" to/with me the dominant things I enjoy having done to me. )

I love dining out/in, good conversation, socialising, travelling to places that interest me, reading, writing (when in the mood), cinema - if it's a film I fancy (I don't go for the sake of going), photography, people watching, the occasional glass of red wine (preferably Shiraz ) and many other things.

I like impulsive, safe fun, humour/wit and confident people with a sense of adventure.

I enjoy kinky, sensuous and intimate, humorous, impulsive, adventurous, good, honest, FUN - with plenty of wit and laughter. I have a sadistic streak which manifests itself in the form of humiliation (Tease & Denial and W/S - in all it's forms, are of interest to me ). I don't want to beat you black-and-blue, although I do have the equipment to do that.

I want to enjoy life and love being in the company of people with whom I connect on more than a sexual, D/s basis. Life is too short and is meant to be lived (we're a long time dead!).... I won't just sit around and do nothing, I'm not into self-denial!!

I adore being orally worshipped, massaged, pampered and enjoy using a sub for whatever I desire of him, my perversions are more sexual and D/s based than S/M. Rewards and punishments are given, as necessary.

As a slut I can be as "down and dirty" as anyone else, am open to suggestions but I don't submit - no matter what goes on. (Am I a switch? Possibly, who knows? All I know is that there are times when I want to be "taken", on my terms but that doesn't detract from enjoyment for all.)

If I want someone to behave in a more dominant way with me they'll never be told to hurt me - I hate pain so don't expect to be allowed to inflict it on me, I won't consent, I'm NOT a masochist.. However.... I can be a real slut with someone who's able to coax her out of me. I submit my body for kinky sex to people with whom I want to indulge; I love to have things done to/with me that I want done but I don't submit my mind.

So....

Q. What are the components of a good dynamic?

A. A mutual desire to share ourselves with each other.

If you're single, confident, capable, understanding, well-mannered, polite, patient, employed, pleasing to my eyes (pic required), reasonably intelligent, solvent, honest and want to be with me on MY terms, drop me a memo. I won't guarantee that we will meet but I am approachable and seeking those who will be able to add to my experiences.

More....

I'm happy to meet with and/or play with people if I get on with them - I'm not seeking to own a slave nor do I want an un-ending string of casual play partners (casual play serves a purpose but it's not fulfilling). It's very nice to be able to enjoy some vanilla time with people as well as kinky time.

I always require someone who is as capable "around the house" as he is "in the bedroom"!!

There are 3 aspects to my personality - Domme, slut and vanilla - there are times when kink is just not appropriate.

I think I'm a fair-minded, reasonable, patient person.... I'm an adult and will make my own choices, decisions and mistakes. If you don't like what I am, what I do or what I say you're totally free to.... Piss off and leave me alone!!

No, No's....

If you're married or have a partner don't ask me to meet you with the intention of playing (either with or without their full knowledge or consent), I won't. Yes, I want to "grow older disgracefully" but not, knowingly, at the possible expense of causing myself or others emotional pain.

I'm NOT interested in cross-dressers, TV's, Adult babies or sissy-maids, they're just not my kinks.

I don't want a sub who needs to be told what to do all the time; he should have a mind of his own and be able to anticipate my needs/requirements.

Summing Up

I reserve the right to refuse the attentions of anyone I don't feel would be suitable for me, I'm VERY fussy about who I choose to spend my time with and I don't suffer fools gladly.

Whoever you are - Don't try to control my thoughts or actions... I don't appreciate being manipulated from an unwelcomed source.

All things should be SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) or, if you prefer RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink).

We ALL have the right to refuse what we don't want and the freedom to live as we choose.

I know that no-one is perfect, we all have flaws and won't appeal to (or agree with) everyone but we're all entitled to our opinions, beliefs, desires, emotions and kinks!

Take care... the world is full of weird people.

C x