Quality time...

IC Name: bookWyrm Joined: 7 Mar 2006 Last visit: 30 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: Ayr, UK Age: 33

Starting with a tabula rasa always seems so intimidating...

Well, here I am again. Is it even possible to encapsulate a complex faceted personality within lines of typing? No, probably not but hopefully a rough thumbnail will serve.

Firstly, I am here to see what potential this place holds. I have been a silent member of IC for some time now and really that has been down to my career; which is also the reason that I will never be posting my face on this or any other site.

But it isn't always the quiet ones you have to watch out for and I am tired of lurking in the shadows. I guess I feel it is time to put some definition on the outline.

I have been active in the scene in Scotland for some time now and have got to know several wonderful people through it. For me, BDSM is an aspect, a facet like I mentioned before and an integral and precious one at that but it does not define me, and it is certainly not all there is to me. To this end, I will try to refrain from listing my preferences and desires purely to those ends. I believe there is a small box for that...

Interestingly though, a lot of what I do admire in BDSM I also admire and strive for outside of it. I am drawn to creativity and, as my name suggests, am never happier than when I am steeped in literature. I adore all kinds of fantasy and spend part of my own free time engaging in an ever-fluctuating maelstrom of writing, drawing, gaming and dreaming up new ideas for all three. I am attracted to people that see the possibilities in things then turn their own personal mirror onto them, revealing something that I had never considered or experienced before.

Similarly confidence is important to me. I adore stimulating conversation and repartee. I can feel incredibly satisfied from the cut and thrust (and parry!) of debate and I find myself relishing the moments when I get to engage in thus. Confidence in others, both in who they are and what they do, is hugely invigorating. I like being in the presence of those who are comfortable in being themselves.

However I also value empathy and compassion in their truest form. I have little time for those that are genuinely shallow and selfish and as much as I loathe the term "deal-breaker" to me that is what it is. If I don't think you can see me for who I am then I cannot trust you to respect me, my boundaries or my feelings.

Someone once told me to live by the three I's and I try to: Identity, Intelligence and Integrity. I have found it is good advice.

What am I looking for? I am remaining open. I have no assumptions, no fixed agenda and no checklist. I really do feel however that the world holds a myriad of incredible and interesting people and I guess I would like to see who is out there without making presupposition or early judgement! If, however, what I have said has resonated with you then I would love to hear from you.

Now, let's see where this leads...

Eye colour: blue   Hair colour: brown   Height: 5ft 9in   Weight: 11st 10lb   BMI: 24.0  

This profile was last updated on 7 Jul 10, 8:23 AM.

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