So much rope, so little time

IC Name: bestbond Joined: 15 Aug 2005 Last visit: 5 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: Cheltenham, UK Age: 45

It really is time for an update. I have evolved over the years, as has my profile.

As an advocate of openness and honesty in all things I should start by making it clear that whilst I see this lovely lifestyle as being an important part of what I am it is and never will be everything as I find balance with my vanilla life which holds equal importance.

I have found that I love the freedom that my participation in this lifestyle brings me. I also love and cherish the opportunities I have, and have had, to witness the freedom and personal growth experienced by those with whom I have shared and will continue to share this lifestyle with. It is hard to put into words the pleasure I gain from seeing someone else blossom, gain confidence and learn to express themselves openly and freely. Freedom to express and explore seems engendered here in those who are genuine and true to themselves.

I am a genuine and serious advocate and supporter of this wonderful lifestyle, yet I understand the need to temper this with those very important vanilla elements of life that keep us real. I run the local munch, with the assistance of valued friends who share my interests and enthusiasm for the lifestyle. I see it as a duty to support and encourage anyone who wishes to explore here, enjoying making new friends and witnessing their growth as they discover what I have already found. I am willing to discuss my experience and any scene in detail by any medium.

I am a warm, caring and loving man away from the scene and a gentle and patient master during any scenario, confident, intelligent, experienced, imaginative, strong yet respectful of all limits where they apply, and willing to explore not only my own fantasies but also those of my sub, in any scene. Practiced in Shibari/Kinbaku with all its' many delightful variations, I provide a safe and sane environment for my sub to realise her fantasies, broaden her horizons and explore her limits. I know only too well that a happy sub is a good sub.

I do not advocate intense pain for the sake of pain, however I do understand when discipline and punishment are fair and necessary, and will often use pleasure as an extremely effective torment. I have been involved in the lifestyle for the majority of my adult life and have encountered many people I would count as true friends, and unfortunately many people who are less than genuine. I am willing and able to offer advice concerning how to move forward or provide support, emotional or otherwise, to those who are unsure of their true motivation for being here. Whilst a serious Dom I do have a sense of humour (one of the most important prerequisites for anyone serious about the lifestyle) and enjoy discussion at all levels. My discussion is open and free, offering levels of honesty which at first may cause the uninitiated some discomfort but ultimately total freedom of expression.

I am happy to discuss all and any aspects of the lifestyle/scene. Ie can assure complete discretion where required and believe that communication and discussion are almost as important as the lifestyle/scene itself. Stressing the importance of communication, it costs nothing to be polite and many genuine people miss out on untold opportunities because some people here think it is OK to be rude, either not replying to e-mails or blocking communications. It is far easier and more polite to actually say "I'm sorry but that's not for me" or "I'm not ready for that" or even "You're not my type"? It's alright to be scared or nervous, especially if you're new to this. In my opinion (and I do have a few of these) this site is here to help those new to this explore safely. I'd like to hear your thoughts, fantasies, opinions on this whether you're Dom, sub or switch.

I have encountered many people who are less than genuine here and I respectfully request that you do not bother to contact me. Whilst I am happy to discuss the lifestyle, life is not a rehearsal and I do not wish to have to deal with repeat time-wasters. Any advice I can give to help you progress through the lifestyle I will give gladly. For real life progress, which will occur sooner rather than later if at all, I am available for play with straight, bi-curious, bi and lesbian female submissive ladies who wish to explore with an experienced and caring Dom male. I have a number of friends who join with me for play from time to time therefore if you seek more this may well be available to you.

I do not seek to build a harem; nothing could be further from my mind. I essentially seek "the one" - one with whom I will be complete. I will enjoy witnessing her growth and sharing with her all the lifestyle has to offer.

I am well equipped in my mastery of the ropes, and combine this with many toys which add to the stimulations, both physical, mental and spiritual available. I have recently taken delivery of a fucking machine although this may not be suitable for the faint of heart (when the bloody thing works properly!! -->now fixed).

I am attempting to hone my photography skills (and also the manipulation of my photos to create something appealing and pleasing to the eye) and with this in mind will always welcome the opportunity to meet with willing ladies who would like to model for me. You will be treated with complete respect and as you will see from my photos I am always happy to maintain a degree of anonymity where required. If you wish to simply expand your portfolio and contribute to my own then please get in touch.

Happy to chat prior to any progression. Can provide photos and links to video clips so you can see what may be enjoyed, either as a voyeur or a participant.

Participation is meant to be an option and not an obligation

My Ideal Person: Honesty, openness, trust and respect are vital within any situation...

Effectively I am seeking "my one" – someone with whom I will be able to share everything, both here and in the vanilla world. I have many years of experience in this rather wonderful world and it would be so good to find someone who will join me on my journey, benefitting from my experience and teaching me more through joint exploration.

Whilst seeking my one, and indeed when I find her, I may continue to share pleasures with ...

1) Bi-sexual or bi-curious sub/switch females who wish to play with a naturally Dom male, and potentially other friends from time to time. Experience is irrelevant and should you wish to just visit and talk rather than touch and explore your curiousity that will be fine with me as I will respect all limits

2) Straight sub female submissives who wish to play with a male Dom. Again experience is irrelevant as I will happily play at a pace suited to your needs and desires

3) Bi-sexual or lesbian female couples who would like to explore with a Dom male. My physical involvement will be limited by your sexuality and this will always be respected. Again there is potential for other/s to be involved in this with consent.

4) Couples who wish to play with a Dom male. Please note and be aware that I am straight and will under no circumstances indulge in same sex activity. I will rarely meet couples on my own, but always remember, the more the merrier. a) Female submissive/Male Submissive b) Female switch/Male Submissive c) Female Dominant/Male Submissive d) Female with cuckold partner

YOU are honest, open-minded, uninhibited, either experienced or novice, seeking to explore elements of this wonderful lifestyle. You want to explore your fantasies, establish your limits and broaden your horizons. You are wishing and willing to discuss all elements of the lifestyle, it's physical, emotional and psychological effects. At e-mail and chat levels you will be completely honest both with me and yourself/ves, and should you wish progress to real life you will do so in the understanding and knowledge that I will offer as much support as I can, with any scene being both preceded and followed by discussion. If you require discretion this is assured as I will appreciate the same from you.

Should you join with me you will do so in the knowledge that you will be entering a safe and sane environment where all limits are respected and where safe-words will be in place.

Clarification and interpretation

I despise labels. They can be misinterpreted and misleading. I am often asked questions relating to myself and my approach and attitude to both relationships and styles of play within the lifestyle.

I would probably describe myself as polyamorous. I know that it is completely possible to have deep feelings for more than one other person, without condition. I experience this in my vanilla world where I am a perent to three wonderful children and have experienced it here from time to time. Having said this, when in a relationship, I am sexually monogamous. When with a partner (and I will adopt this course when I do find "my one") I will only engage in sexual intercourse with that partner. This does not mean that I will not involve sexual contact with others, simply that I prefer to maintain something special between myself and a partner, something that can be cherished and respected.

I loathe the term Daddy Dom, because it clashes with my role as a Daddy in the vanilla world. Where it relates to age play here it is an inappropriate label for me at least. Where it describes someone who is caring and nurturing; someone who gains pleasure from supporting and encouraging personal growth and development, then I accept the label applies to me.

MSN ID:bestbond@hotmail.com   Eye colour: Mixed   Hair colour: Brown Grey   Height: 5ft 11in   Weight: 15st   BMI: 29.1  

This profile was last updated on 6 Feb 12, 2:53 PM.

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