***TIME FOR AN UP DATE***

Thank you for visiting me - please read the following carefully.

I have been involved in the BDSM scene for 3 years now and have met many brilliant and highly intelligent people, however I still seem to be thwated by pretenders and fakes.

It seems that BDSM people are ,in general,educated and well informed but some fail to read profiles fully or fail to understand that if you say your are involved or interested in BDSM that you are some sort of cheap "kinky" fuck!

I am a sexually submissive woman. I am not for the fence-sitters. I am not for the faint at heart. I desire real time encounters. I do like to chat and make friends but I am not here to play endless electronic games with those unwilling to explore in reality.

I am of ample build.....a sofa not a wooden chair! Reubens would have delighted in painting me but the catwalks of London and Paris would need re-inforcing! Childbirth and gravity have left their cruel marks - but that is what makes me human and not full of Botox!

Honesty, respect, communication and trust are crucial for me, and I am open to learning more about the life style, myself and the eroticism and sensuality within a D/s relationship. I feel that a D/s relationship should complement a couples life - not fill a void in it. Power exchange can also work both ways for me.....I will switch under the direction of a Dom - within this scenerio I have Dommed another woman and would also consider domming a man. BUT PLEASE DO NOT MESSAGE ME ABOUT DOMMING YOU IF YOU ARE A SUBMISSIVE MAN...THIS WOULD ONLY HAPPEN WITHIN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MALE DOM.

I am looking for the intensity that comes with a special connection that lies beyond the physical. D/s is something you do WITH someone, not TOO someone - and it all begins with the mind ( but not mind games!)

I seek a very special man to partner me and expand our own consciousness and experiences. A man to join me on my life journey. Someone who understands and respects that I am a single parent with other responsibilities in the vanilla world. I am a sexually submissive woman but not a doormat! In the vanilla world I am reliable, caring, creative, consistent and loyal and this is the basis on which my desires, fantasies and dreams become reality.

My Dom needs to be comfortable with himself, be powerful in his own right, stable, solvent, strict and be ready and willing to explore his desires in real time. No married or attached men!****I AM NOT A DIRTY LITTLE SECRET**** Tall and toned men under 45 please. Submissive guys are welcome to say "hello" but I will not Domme them or become their Mistress. I will only chat with and answer to people with photos on their profiles....there are no secrets here, I have my photo on IC - so should you! NO PHOTO = NO CHAT

OTHER STUFF.

I am a trained designer and artist, so I have a high regard for the visual arts and most things creative. I am now trying to set myself up as a designer/maker working with recycled materials.

I love listening to music and have been a guitarist since I was a child, playing both classical and acoustic material. Played the bassoon for 5 years-but we don't talk about that dark side of my life! Enjoy going to concerts, festivals and gigs. Would like to explore the fetish club scene further and attend some munches too.

*******Laughter and life are the keys - with fun , sin, lust, seduction, debauchery and depravity thrown into the mix!*******

Love and lashes

BB