IC Name: Xx_Rob_V_xX Joined: 25 Jun 2008 Last visit: 322 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: Milton Keynes, UK Age: 42

Currently not looking. Not even a little bit. At all. Thank you.

With all that in mind, if you want to know more about me then read on.

So, where to start? This I'm afraid is going to be somewhat of a marathon by the time I'm finished, so if you're intrigued or interested by the title, sit down, have a cuppa, put your feet up and read on....

Before we start though - my personality isn't all just love of kink - I'm not THAT one dimensional, but this is first and foremost a kink site, so that's what I'll concentrate on here.

OK, I've known I'm submissive for as long as I can remember. Started out in the usual way I guess, having crushes on strict teachers at school, moved on to having vanilla girlfriends who looked and acted a bit 'Dommey' (perhaps 'bitchy' might even be the term, but it's all good...). Then I discovered 'Forum' magazine for those of you who remember/know it. Not your typical girly magazine I'm glad to say, and I can genuinely say I did buy it for the text, not the pictures. Anyway, it had/has a fairly strong BDSM slant to it, and suddenly I realised I wasn't a complete freak. Other people are into the same things as me. A while after that the internet took off, and here I am.....

About me. Well looks wise, and 'vanilla' life wise, I'm just about the least submissive guy you could imagine. Definitely a 'bloke'. Think of a cross between Gene Hunt (Life On Mars) and Phil & Grant Mitchell (not that I ever watch Eastenders...) Powerfully built, I spent a lot of time in the gym in my youth, though I'm not a 'muscles on muscles' steroid freak either. Practicing martial artist (so I'm very flexible!) I'm generally a happy person. Definitely glass-half-full. I'm confident, competent, intelligent, assertive, cheeky perhaps, maybe even verging towards a very slight arrogance at times. None of this prevents me being a good sub though. I'm just a sub with a backbone. Almost the archetypal Master in fact, unfortunately for me. So much so, that when attending BDSM clubs and events I'm always taken for a Dom at first. That started out frustrating at first, but now I find myself quite amused by the whole head f*** aspect of it. Inside that mask though, that coffin I've built for myself, lies the complete opposite. I'm never happier than when I'm submitting. For me the loss of control, the handing over of your whole being to another person is the biggest thrill I've ever experienced. I'm a very sociable person, and my network of 'kinky friends' is growing very nicely. I'm a very loyal person, and will never give those friends up, but I still have that ache to be owned by a loving Domme

Finding a 'kinky' partner who shares my interests shouldn't be any different to finding a vanilla partner. Its just a little more complicated, but the basics of personality, sexual attraction, chemistry and compatibility are still the same. It's the woman I'm looking for, not the role. That's always secondary. All I do know is that I can't be happy and satisfied with a purely vanilla partner. I've tried it and it doesn't work.

I am fussy. I make no bones about that. Though I'm not looking for perfection, just someone who approaches perfection for me. There is a difference, and if you can see that difference, then we may be starting out on the right foot.

I've met some good people from here and other kinky sites. After spending time emailing them, and on the phone, we've met. Sadly though, so far I've only really 'clicked' with one person (for me anyway). That's what I'm looking for again. That 'click'. That magical moment, when you know you've met someone you'd do anything for. I need someone I can respect and admire in everyday life, because if I don't have that, then how can I submit to that person?

I'm not going to jump in with both feet and accept you as my Mistress (or partner in any sense of the word) just because you tell me to. I am though, more than willing to do whatever it takes to meet the right person.

I'm a huge believer in the sexual superiority of women. Not in the leather clad, whip wielding Dominatrix way though. If a Dominant woman enjoys that persona, then fine (it is a very erotic mental picture I must admit!) and if other guys want to go to a pro-Domme to lick PVC boots, then fine, whatever floats your boat. It's not for me though. The big thing for me is realism. If that means that a woman wants to wear scruffy jeans and an old t-shirt rather than glam up, then that's fine. That's her right. If she wants to glam up then that's fine too.

I've discovered fairly recently a huge love of roping, I'm rapidly becoming very taken with those delicious floggers that leave you so warm and tingling afterwards, and a Violet Wand is an imminent purchase. They're just three of my recent discoveries though, there are many more, some old, some new, but perhaps it would be nicer to share them in a chat, rather than tell you everything instantly? I don't believe I can be pigeon-holed in my sexuality and kinks. I appreciate the erotic potential of pain, correctly administered, yet I'm no 'pain-slut'. I enjoy bondage and restriction, though I love to move and feel. I enjoy body-worship. Hugely. Though I have no fetish for any particular part of the body. (Maybe that should read "I have a fetish for all parts of the female body"?)

I'm a believer in erotic exploration. Trust me, I'll tell you what isn't working for me, though I'll try almost anything, and I'm more than happy to have my boundries and limits gently stretched....

I've explained to a few people face to face, that as long as I'm 'Alpha sub' (and think about that term carefully) then life is good. I think that's the most succinct way I can put that.

That's why I'm not necessarily looking solely for a Domme here (although that's obviously my primary preference). I think within the dynamic I've explained, a partner Who's a switch could definitely work, as could the right sub - as long as she understands my belief that women are inherently, sexually, superior to men....

In 'nilla life I'm very much into books and music, and I'm a huge foodie.

Books - Ayn Rand. Bio's. Clarkson. Frank Herbert. Douglas Adams, Anne Rice, Tom Sharpe, Asimov, Clarke. I could go on. And on...

Music - punk, Two-Tone era ska (not just the Two-Tone bands mind..) and oi! especially. Various indie/alterative mainly. Most things in general. Except of course that boring generic R'n'B/dance/soul/ or whatever they're calling it this week, and the X-factor type karaoke Kings and Queens with reasonable voices and very little other discernable talent. Passionate about music? Whatever gives you that impression?

Food - Sushi and Sashimi in particular. Asian cuisine in general, but mainly just a real foody. Equally happy in the kitchen knocking up anything from Tom Yam soup to some amazing scrambled eggs with truffle oil, parsley and a touch of Parmesan, to dining in Michelin starred restaurants (all too rarely though, sadly). The odd burger or kebab has been known to pass my lips (usually on a drunken night out), but going back to music, that's just the equivalent of X-factor dross. Tastes OK briefly, but ultimately fairly unsatisfying.

The more physical 'nilla things I love would have to be martial arts primarily. No one style, I've tried many in my twenty odd years of training. I think my favourite changes with my moods... I love my mountain bike, and most water related sports - swimming (obviously) canoeing, sailing... Reasonable skier, though I don't get on the slopes as often as I'd like.

So there we go. You've had a fairly indepth look at the kinky me, and a lesser insight into the 'nilla me.

I hope you enjoyed your brief glimpse of Robworld.....

Eye colour: Blue   Hair colour: shaved   Height: 5ft 9in   Weight: 14st 5lb   BMI: 29.4  

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