I was born and grew up in Asia (Japan, Hongkong, Malaysia, Singapore) but now reside somewhat regularly in Middle England. I am successful in my own way although I am not the career driven sort (have been there and done that). I am educated (two degrees and a bunch of diplomas all mostly in art and design related academia). I'm very keen on working with my hands and as a creative person, I like making things. To that end I do silver-smithing, am learning to tattoo, and love to cook! I also travel quite frequently (once every 3-6 months) and all around the Uk. I love wild abandoned places over urban inner-cities. I love being quiet and listening. I'm a very tactile person, enjoying textures, flavours and smells. I love looking/gazing at things, taking in their details, features, colours... I'm quite straightforward as a person but have a sort of Asiatic reserve about me. I think it's cultural. I admire manners in a person - which seem so lack these days. I still believe in host gifts and opening doors for women. I like to think I'm easy to please - I like good food, good wine, and good company! So that's a little bit about me.

I thought I would also address a few misconceptions that have arisen thus far in my time here :

1) No fetish/Bdsm interests? The reason why I haven't ticked any of my fetish/BDSM interests isn't because I am uninterested or inexperienced. I started exploring BDSM when I was in my late teens/early twenties and I have been involved in a few BDSM scene/community projects in my time. I just think a list of kink activities do not adequately describe the way in which I play. Suffice to say, I am of open (and dirty) mind at times; but that is not all I am.

2) So you switch? The jury is still out on that one. I would try to explain it but it bores me - I think the only really relevant thing you need to know is that I believe in respect for who a person is as they are to you and not what a person claims to be. That falls across board whether you are D or s or m or K or ... any other letter in the alphabet.

3) Online only? No. Unfortunately I'm lucky enough to take my interests into real life and I find that online only interactions just don't cut the mustard. I am interested in meeting people of like mind in a one to one over coffee or tea (or beverage of choice). Where this is not possible, we may just be friendly acquaintances but I have no desire to engage in online D/s etc...

4) Relocation, Long Term? Whilst I'm not interested in relocation, I am interested in forming long term friendships with persons of any gender (M/F/TG/TS/GLBS). That is to say I would like to build a circle of familiar friends and confidences within the lifestyle to engage with in a lifestyle manner.

About my BDSM. If asked to surmise my thoughts and feelings about BDSM, then I would say that it is really about passion without boundaries. It is about expressing an infinite tenderness and care - about revelling in vulnerability and a sort of spiritual nakedness. It is about confronting some truth about yourself and the ability to share that intimacy with another.

There is such duality in BDSM for me as it is and isn't a game that we play. It can be intense but it can also be fun. It is that freedom of being. I think if you find someone with whom you are able to share this aspect of yourself with, you are very lucky and very blessed. It can be at once, the most awesome and awful thing... but I wouldn't have it any other way.