I am single with no children and seek new friends who are interested in BDSM.

I would like a play relationship preferably with someone with similar vanilla interests.

However I am also a romantic and I still hope to find my soul mate who completely matches me physically, emotionally and mentally - my 'one' true mate. Finding a soul mate may be an impossible dream, but I think everyone is entitled to have a few dreams!

I do not like online chat, and much prefer conversations that are face to face or on the telephone! My picture is available on request.

Please do memo me if you would like my picture or want to know more about me.

Vanilla interests

I like history and am researching my family history.

I like sci-fi and watch Dr Who and Torchwood. Torchwood seems to have lots of BDSM so perhaps this is not really a vanilla interest.. I also enjoy watching TV documentaries and pop music.

I like dining out and going to the cinema, theatre and pub! I am addicted to dark chocolate. I am a non-smoker but I have friends who are smokers.

Fetish interests

I have always been interested in BDSM. I am currently finding out about the scene and exploring my interest in BDSM.

I think I may be best described as a Switch. My two sides are -

• Dom - I want to gain experience as a Dom with a sub who has similar interests.
• Sub - Submission is a gift for someone really special! I am bratty and want to top from bottom. Can anyone cope with this or tame me?

I think I would ideally like to be sub in the bedroom and Dom outside the bedroom most of the time! My BDSM interests are mainly sexual.

I am not currently interested in 24/7 D/s or TPE.

I would like to meet ladies who are -

• Switches
• Dommes who respect their Subs
• Subs with ideas and attitude

I regularly go to the Preston and Blackpool munches. I have recently visited Afterlife in Preston, Lash and the Couch Club in Manchester.

I would love to try giving and receiving some of the BDSM interests listed below with a play partner. I do not need to find a partner who will participate in every interest listed!

I enjoy sensual play rather than caning and flogging. I am open to most play suggestions although I do have 'hard limits.'

The tickling fetish is my favourite. Being tied and tickled is bliss and torment combined.

This article has more information about tickling - tickling fetishism

If you find tickling interesting please get in touch.

I think all play should be as safe as possible and consensual i.e. RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink).

I also believe that Safewords are essential unless you know your partner really well.

Some lyrics and poetry that I enjoy are -

Sweet Dreams, Eurythmics

Sweet dreams are made of this

Who am I to disagree?

I travel the world

And the seven seas--

Everybody's looking for something.

Some of them want to use you

Some of them want to get used by you

Some of them want to abuse you

Some of them want to be abused.

Odi et Amo, Catullus

Odi et amo. Quare id faciam, fortasse requiris.

nescio, sed fieri sentio et excrucior.

I hate and love. How can this be, you may ask.

I do not know, but I feel this way and I am crucified.

If, Kipling

• If you can keep your head when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too:

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,

Or being hated, don't give way to hating,

And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

• If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;

If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim,

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those two imposters just the same:

If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,

And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools;

• If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

And never breathe a word about your loss:

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

• If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,

If all men count with you, but none too much:

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,

And—which is more—you'll be a Man, my son!

For Whom the Bell Tolls, Donne

No man is an island,

Entire of itself.

Each is a piece of the continent,

A part of the main.

If a clod be washed away by the sea,

Europe is the less.

As well as if a promontory were.

As well as if a manner of thine own

Or of thine friend's were.

Each man's death diminishes me,

For I am involved in mankind.

Therefore, send not to know

For whom the bell tolls,

It tolls for thee.

Rubaiyat, Omar Khayyam (fragment)

• I sent my Soul through the Invisible,

Some letter of that After-life to spell:

And by and by my Soul return'd to me,

And answer'd "I Myself am Heav'n and Hell:"

• Heav'n but the Vision of fulfill'd Desire,

And Hell the Shadow from a Soul on fire,

Cast on the Darkness into which Ourselves,

So late emerged from, shall so soon expire.