IC Name: The_Bringing Joined: 27 Feb 2010 Last visit: 3 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: Lancashire, UK Age: 50

Male, professional,

Of a Dominant and Sadistic personality, although always respecting of pre established limits and boundaries.

I have in differing guises dipped in and out of the alternative world for many years. Some contact being prior even to cyber land. I suspect on some level that makes me a bit 'old fogey ish' Oh! well comes to us all I suppose.

Are you open to the infinite possibility of human interaction?

Please speak if so

Are you able to take time to explore, to go slowly? Not all the best things come in instant packaging. The time is needed not because of 'fear' or 'anxiety' be that either mine or yours, (much more of this subject later in profile.) Time, because time is what human beings need in order to build trust and respect, without which nothing worthwhile will be discovered in this very human life.

I pursue submission, I am able to provide other more restricted gratifications should that be what is required. Again set boundaries would need to be established pre contact to drive the specific purpose, however my personal driver remains and always will be toward benevolent control of the masochistic, submissive personality through the freedom of consensual submission.

Oh! and should you be that rare person who is able to communicate constantly do please use grammatically correct English, the most expressive language in the world, why would anyone want to lol or anything else abreviated? Personally I prefer the 'whole thing' Should you be dyslexic or experience any other impairment which with makes the above request difficult to comply with then I will of course accept that situation, please say so. We all have our battles to contend with.

An update is due. March 2010

IC has changed since last I was here, little doubt about that and for the most part, well lets say its just not for me...but each to their own of course. For those more basically orientated, the reason I won't post the longed for 'pic' is because I am such an ugly bastard that I crack mirrors at 40 paces, so what effect would my fizog have on the ic server...???

Another reason for no 'pic' is that I prefer first meetings to be blind, as in no known pre physical image, that is a personal preference not an absolute necessity and would also give you the clue that I am cerebral in orientation rather than the physical.

To simplify, I would equally enjoy fucking your mind as much as your body......which given that I must here include my health warning that I am practising psychotherapist, is hardly surprising eh? As such, I am pretty much a social outcast of course, but hey ho.....at least I get to live the quiet life in my dark little world.........

9th April 2010

What really strikes me so much from talking to a few folks around the place and listening and reading endlessly is the amount of 'fear' around these days. Really is striking, I guess this must be a figment of our lovely anxiety driven society......

Personally I am rather glad that I move more and more into that 'old fogey' status.....at least I am a calm 'old fogey' ..heh heh....

Fear's a strange thing really, I mean surely its human to be aware of fear?...Surely thats what keeps us alive?.....fear...being able to react to it......to feel it...then assess it and sometimes ....what the hell! Do it anyway......that has often seemed to me to be the best way.....

Gain the experience, learn with an open mind...

I came across some words the other day which I guess sum me up.....Where I stand so for those of you who seem curious aout who I am....

This is me, a child of the bad old 60's......

I guess someone deserves a credit for the words, but not sure who. I expect some geek will look it up and tell me...

Thing is, because the writer is of a similar mind set to me, I feel that they wouldn't give a damn anyway.....

So for all the kids who survived the 1930's '40s, '50, '60s, and 70s!!

We kids have been able to live our lives relatively free of fear because we were given a gift when we were born, we were allowed by our parents to live our lives our way. Because we had gained psychological strength from the attachment provide by our parents we were able to do this, to live life to the full.

How did this miraculous situation occur?

First we survived being put to sleep on our tummies in cots covered with bright coloured lead-based paints. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, locks on doors or cabinets, and we rode our bikes without helmets.

We would ride in cars (if our parents had one) with no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometime no brakes.

As children we ate worms, mud pies and drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle. We shared one drink with four friends, from one bottle, and guess what? No one actually died from doing so.

We ate cakes, white bread, real butter, and bacon. We drank fizzy lemonade made with real white sugar and we weren't overweight. WHY? Because we were always outside playing…..that's why.

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back home when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day--- And, we were… Yes OKAY……

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride them down the hill, only to find that we had forgotten about brakes. After running into bushes and walls a few times we learnt to solve the problem ourselves.

We didn't have Play Stations, Nintendos, Sky TV, DVD's mobiles or laptops. WE HAD FRIENDS- and we went outside and found them all by ourselves! Often we just walked to a friend's house, knocked on the door, walked in and talked to them.

Getting older we fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and cracked teeth, AND NO-ONE GOT SUED because we learnt that we were responsible for our own actions.

At school not everyone came top or made the sports team. Those who didn't learnt to deal with their disappointment. Imagine that!

The idea of our parents bailing us out, or complaining to authority when WE broke the rules, was unheard of...... Our parents sided with the law.

These generations have produced some of the most considered risk takers, problem solvers and inventors ever. Witness the past 50 years of innovation and new ideas.

We had freedom, failure, success and a sense of responsibility and we learned how to deal with all of it because both our parents were around when we needed them and we were allowed to go out and have experiences, we were allowed to face our own fears, on our own, from an early age.

For all that, I for one, am so grateful that I was born in the '60's.

UPDATE 31.08.10

Now if by any chance you fought your way through that barrage of words and have not long since deleted me, then there is reasonable chance that speaking may at least be worth while? What do you think?

It is immaterial to me who you are, or what you wish to talk about, kink or vanilla. I enjoy people and communication, so there can be no waste of time, there can be no failure.

I make no wild promises, I speak only with honesty as I hear and feel, what more is there?

I remain endlessly puzzled by the many individuals, of all persuasions, who have such eloquently written profiles, each one logically constructed, with their personal desires clearly stated. What I fail to understand is why this same person then does not seem able to enter into even the briefest of verbal interaction to discover possible mutual area's of interest, and yes girls, I am aware that you get many dick shots and garden shed wankers cluttering up your in tray, but surely you can tell the difference at a glance.

Some degree of insight and awareness is surely a pre requisite of exploration around here?

Please, if you have anything to say, if you have deep dark desires, be they explored or unexplored, then search inside yourself for the courage to reach out and take the hand that is offered to you now.

You can do this, for you are human, you are able to face your fears.

I also keen to build long term contacts with both Male and female Dominants, whilst accepting that this is a difficult direction, I know from past experiences that the aim is worthwhile.

Update 7th Nov 2010

Much to my surprise I have just discovered that even at my age there are times when I just can't see the obvious even when she is looking at me.....Thank you s for having the courage to say how this feels for you.

Update 24th Sept 2011

An addition is now required I feel.

During the past year or so I have made contact with some beautiful minds and yes indeed, bodies also. I do thank all those who have made contact with me and offered support in comment on my often long drawn our ramblings. To those few who attacked me for my words, well I thank you also, I guess we all learn from comment as we go along.

I need to say that I am unable to explore possible submission with anyone else at this moment in time. My life is full to the point of exhaustion at present. My beautiful s continues to stimulate me so. In addition those I already communicate with fill my life with such pleasure that to attempt to logically support others would do you a great disservice I feel.

I am of course happy to talk when and where I can, should you wish to do so, but for the next ten months or so at least, please understand that talk is all I can do....

Oh the lovely words...

T.B.

Hair colour: Blonde   Height: 6ft 2in   Weight: 15st 1lb   BMI: 26.9  

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