A year has gone by

IC Name: Tandaradei Joined: 29 Mar 2009 Last visit: 124 days ago Sex/gender: Female Location: CB (Cambridge), UK Age: 24

European (Don't ask me "Where are you from?")

Queer (If you want to put me in a box, put me in a large one)

Human Scientist (crazy BSc from one of London's universities)

Cunning Linguist (English, French, German & other)

Extroverted, optimistic, sometimes hyper.

I have a boyfriend. I'm *not* interested in any play / sex / offers of relationships. On the other hand, if you want some intelligent conversations, I can provide that.

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I've been to a few munches, rope workshops, and even a proper kink-night, so I guess I should lose the "newbie" label.

I am looking for...

In a few words: Every now and again, I like to totally give up control. Devil-may-care attitude is likely to be present. I'm not a masochist; I just find certain kind of pain "interesting". Heart restraints, being scratched, pinched, caressed. Yes to pinwheel and clover-clamps (but I need to be spacing a bit first!). No-no to hitty things. Hate those Doms who attempt "multitasking": you either play or not - if you want a sentient being attached with a rope to your bed, get yourself a dog. For me play is about intimacy.

Well, I suppose I'm not your 'standard' sub. Being pretty much forced to take control of my own life I flat out refuse to give up control permanently. Not only that, I know that it is possible for D/s games that extend beyond play to become 'unhealthy' - for a sub to become to (emotionally) dependent on the Dom, and for the Dom - that the being depended upon becomes too much.

I don't want 'menacing' or 'threatening' Dom. On the other hand being firm-gentle and providing guidance is more than welcome. I'd like someone who would respect me and consider me equal outside of play. I can work with polite requests but not orders.

I'd like for play to be a time for me when I can relax, give up control without any worries. Stop acting the role I needed to adapt. Just be.

I should point out that I am rather rubbish at communication. I don't like to share with others what activities I prefer because

• I don't want to be a bother to the other person, and generally think it's easier to let them do what they prefer. It is safe to assume that I am fine with whatever being done to me; if I'm not I can get violent and scream blue murder. It might be a bit lazy of me, but an explanation follows.
• What sends good shivers down my spine is heavily triggered by what goes on in my head. I can imagine situations that I find very arousing, but I don't want to share them because then it will lose its charm for me. Also, it will, to some extent, make people do what I like. And I like eliciting spontaneous, raw reactions - recalling those results in good shivers. Not violence or extensive use of force, just some action that 'puts me in place'.
• Not everyone doing the same thing will elicit the same response. Someone tying me up can have me spacing, someone else can have me all chatty and interactive, and yet someone else can have me silent and happy but not spacing.

I would like someone to help me bring out my feminine side. Someone to coerce me, to be, to think and act more like a docile woman rather than independent and tomboyish one. I'd like someone to teach me to dance. I'd like to make clear, though, that I am NOT interested in age-play of any kind, and I am looking for someone relatively close to my age (maximum a decade or so older than me).

I'm comfortable in my own body (although likely to be a bit shy at the beginning).

Look up the song "Sen Katarzyny II" (first half of the second verse and the third verse). Translate it for yourself. And despite what the song might suggest, I have no particular interest and intention to switch.

Interests

Varied, really.

Travelling is fun, especially when having someone who knows about our destinations and is enthusiastic while talking about them.

Photography, at either end of the camera, although I am barely past the amateur stage as a photographer, and in most cases end up as a model rather spontaneously.

Crafts. I mostly fail because what I manage to produce is far from my original concept. Not particularly encouraging, and I don't have all that much patience to practice. I suppose the only craft I am good at is knitting; might be a bit of a granny craft, but it allows me to make all sorts of nice things. I'm ok at cross-stitching as well, but that doesn't require much know-how-to.

Music. I need some sort of music in the background, if I'm on my own I find silence disconcerting. Spotify's good (Listen to my Random Favourites Playlist). Radio is even better; station of choice: RMF FM.

Books. I certainly don't read as much as I used to. It's mid-September and I only managed to read 19 books so far this year.

Cooking. I enjoy cooking, especially when there's someone to keep me company. I collect recipe magazines, but I'm lucky if I have opportunity to try out more than two recipes from one issue. This is where living with people comes in handy. I like baking as well, but then again, I don't have much field to practice because there isn't much point in baking a cake just to eat it on my own. Sharing what I've made plays a large part in my decision to make stuff.

Dancing. After a few years of thinking that dancing is not for me because I'm a tomboy with short hair, I gathered up my courage and went to a taster session of the Uni Latin&Ballroom Dancing society. I've been doing it only for a few months but I love it. And I pretty much always wear a skirt and 2.5" heels for dancing (the tomboy is still there, but it's much easier to dance in heels, and the skirt twirls when I'm doing my spins).

Ice-skating.

Eye colour: grey   Hair colour: blond   Height: 5ft 7in  

This profile was last updated on 1 Feb 11, 4:24 PM.

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