If you are reading this, make a cup of tea first

A. I run the Oxford Munch, if you are seeking to make kinky friends in the Oxford area, drop me a line for details. This is a friendly and relaxed Munch,always happy and welcoming to new visitors.

B. The Munch is a safe and social way for making kinky friends, learning about the BDSM scene, and having fun. The Oxford Munch is open to all BDSM types. Meet and greet easily arranged, just ask.

You can never have too many pervy friends. Get away from the screen and *meet* people!

Footnotes :

Warnings about the down side : (me) If you judge a book by the cover, rather than the contents, then *stop reading* right now and scurry safely away.....

T. is a short tubby bearded cigar smoking whisky drinking moody ol fart living a complicated and busy life. Never ask him a question with more than one answer...you may receive an essay in return! T. is a philosophy graduate,an ex-priest (no, I do NOT role play church games,before you ask)and an avid lover of classical music. Best not to mention politics either.

However in BDSM :see my interests below and my pics of some favourite kit.

Another downer dear Dom - seeker. I am semi-attached and honest about it.(This means=married, but free for a dedicated and sensible BDSM partner). Anything other than honesty stinks in my book.

I can give quality time, but don't expect 24/7 as work, travelling, and several orchestras playing in London get timetabled on my calendar. If however you are mature and stable enough, to wish to celebrate BDSM without pressure, wrapped in a good friendship where the whole person matters and is valued...drop me a line.

There are as many lifestyles as there are individuals.The meeting of 2 minds,and a mutual passion for kink can make something special happen.

Ideally you are somewhere around 30 upwards and make your judgements about a Dom on talking to him,meeting him and asking questions. I value communication, responses and exchanges. Dialogue is the bedrock of any agreement.

My past BDSM partners have all been German...which is fun as I love Germany but I would prefer to spend less time at Heathrow and more time together in pleasures.If you are in London, and from The EU,or even more if you are from the East...it would be cool to explore East/West dynamics in play.

Things that turn me on....intelligent independent women who *know* their value.Confident women. Literate or musical conversations (try and guess my favourite composers and writers). Petite women (as said, I'm short!).

I would prefer to meet a couple of times, at a gallery or in Chinatown for eats.See if we have the chemistry to make a good connection all-round, not just in ropes.

Things that turn me off? Read my regular rants on IC. I confess..the list does get longer !!

You don't need to love cigars,adore Mahler or have experience of shackles.However an open heart for **adventure** with a kinky sense of humour goes a long way

If age can mean experience, not dotage. Good. If being still married,yet being free for BDSM, means honesty, and I can expect the same truthfulness from you : Good. If mutual respect is to be merited, not demanded. Good. If metal restraints, discipline and friendship turns you on, then drop me a line.

T.