My best side

IC Name: SylviaMarSh Joined: 4 Apr 2010 Last visit: 11 days ago Sex/gender: Female Location: EH (Edinburgh), UK

What can I say about myself? I'm just your average, fun-loving, sadomasochist from Edinburgh.

A few people on the Edinburgh BDSM scene have recently started calling me “Harsh Marsh”, but I'm not that harsh...not in public anyway. I've been told that I hit like a girl and the lack of any serious marks remaining after I've flogged someone could be construed as evidence of this (you see? I'm really a pussycat) That said, I do like the nickname and I'm having fun growing into it.

My husband is the very patient and truly amazing @RainyRat. Rainy's a bondage junkie and I'm a pain slut. We met around 13 years ago through a mutual kinky friend and got to know each other outside the scene before developing a regular play partner relationship, which lasted for a spell until we fell into a fairly casual arrangement. What was meant to be a rebound fuck turned rapidly into the most bewildering and terrifyingly intense Relationship (yes, capital R). That was 11 years ago now and we've been inseparable ever since. The success of our relationship is down to our absolute honesty with each other; no lies, no mistruths, no secrecy.

I admit to being a tough person to live with; due to a particularly bad experience many years ago, I'm hard work, have serious trust issues and I'm emotionally high maintenance. I never thought I would meet someone who could not only put up with, but successfully manage my needs. You've got to admire a man who rises to the challenge, then marries it!

I'm here to meet new people, make friends and share ideas. I have a few good friends I play with from time to time and I'm very happy with what I have going on in the kinky side of my life, right here, right now. I do not have multiple romantic relationships and I'm not actively looking for a play partner or fuck buddy. Don't ask. I get way too many private messages asking for casual encounters and receiving yet another one will not tip the scales in your favour.

Outside of kink, I enjoy:

• reading
• cooking
• cleaning
• going to gigs and festivals
• listening to music (I'm fairly eclectic)
• having long conversations with friends; sometimes too long by many peoples' standards
• spending time with friends over wine/whisky/gin, a good film or coffee (or all three if the night goes on long enough)
• numbers; it's my job to be highly numerate and I enjoy solving number puzzles... whilst being beaten? Oh, yes please!
• making lists; I exhibit serious OCD tendencies when it comes to being organised (or "CDO", if you're using the letters alphabetically)

Kinkwise, I enjoy:

• oral; whilst I love receiving, I prefer to give
• needle play; a new friend, but we get on so very well
• bare bottomed and heavy handed spankings; it's a skin on skin thing
• being on the receiving end of a hard flogging; that's ”heavy” flogging
• being roughed up in a fairly brutal manner; being choked, being hurt
• being physically restrained where less is more; again skin on skin works for me
• surrendering completely after a struggle; when I can no longer physically protest
• being "forced" to do things I "don't want to do"; "it's going to happen whether you like it or not"
• passive blood play; I know I'm clean and safe, so I'm happy for others to have fun with my blood
• active blood play; only with someone I know is clean and not in any other relationships at all
• roughing up big, strong men; restraining them then knocking fuck out of them is just so much fun
• teasing restrained and wriggly women; delivering slow and sensual beatings to them and leaving them wanting more
• rope bondage; I've always enjoyed binding others, but have only recently discovered it's also fun to be strung up too
• having my pain tolerance tested and challenged; I'm at my happiest when I scream, cry, beg for mercy and they keep the blows coming

Whilst I'm always open to trying new things, I've acquired an interesting collection of hard limits over the years. Other than the basic three (animals, children and necrophilia, which I have never tried and can safely say I never will), the hard limits I've encountered thus far are watersports, scat, vomit and tickling (receiving). I also draw the line at waterboarding, clowns, spiders, moths and pigeons; I consider these all to be hard limits, so don't push me. It won't end well for you if you do. I also have no time for game players who are only trying to get themselves off on some ego/confidence boost; take your games elsewhere, move along.

As a switch, I'm interested in participating in more energy play, power exchange, punching and slapping. I'd also love to experience an interrogation scenario as the “victim”, but would only consider this with those I know very well and trust implicitly. If you know me well enough, you'll already know what I really mean when I say “interrogation”.

This profile was last updated on 8 Apr 11, 7:15 AM.

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