IC Name: Sub_Heaven Joined: 7 Oct 2010 Last visit: 76 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: London/Leeds, UK Age: 31

Isn't it amazing that we all have this ability to alter, shape and transform other peoples perception of reality just by the words we use, someone speaks and sound waves travel through the air, hit your ear drum, your brain then starts firing off neurons as it converts these waves into an audible sound in your head at a processing speed so quick it seems instantaneous, and as you digest what is being said to you, your brain neurons are firing away in the background attaching the words to meaning and your consciousness conjures up all kinds of maybe tearful, kind, heartfelt or even erotic thoughts just off the back of some well chosen words. That's presumably why we're all here, to make each others realities a better place to live in. Just some food for thought! I'll try and explain a bit about myself and a bit about the sort of personality I go for.

SO here goes... I would say I'm naturally submissive, in actual fact I can recall being sexually excited about submissive type scenarios long before I really got excited about the opposite sex. All my D/s experience has come from vanilla type relationships though, or relationships that have at least started off in vanilla settings.

I've been spending a lot of time lately thinking about the psychology of D/s relationships and whether it is something I want, and I think it is. For me to truly submit to a dom though on not just a physical level but on a deep emotional level too, I would have to initially really like the person, find them physically attractive and admire their personality (and the feeling would need to be mutual I'd think), if this is in place then the foundations are there to trust and care for each other on a much deeper level. I guess it's a bit like building a house, if the foundations are in place first then at least you give yourself a chance of building something that will last, if you rush into building your house and neglect the foundations then unless you get very lucky the house will eventually topple over and you have to start again elsewhere or go through lots of painful repair work which might not resolve anything anyway. Sorry there I go again with my crappy analogies!

So the kind of woman I would really admire? I really like people who think about how they think, who communicate well and are not afraid to say what they want, someone who really tries to listen and understand people (in general I mean, I don't expect anyone to be a mind reader though), can show a softer side and has a strong empathetic personality.

I'm not someone who wants to top from the bottom though, I hope I don't give that impression, if you want to know some of my favourite ways of serving a dom then feel free to ask and I can go into as much or little detail as you want, there are some hints to the right, but in the end the point of being a sub (for me) is for my dom to get their way, and my pleasure comes from being controlled, used, humiliated while serving dom's needs or fancies. Nothing shocks me, this is the age of the internet! In an ironic way the things I think I wont enjoy I've probably ended up enjoying even more when it pleases the person I care for. Does that make sense? I will say though I favour the worship and humiliation side of things than the pain side of things.

Anyway... I'm self-employed, and also nearing the end of some voluntary work that I've been doing in my spare time, I am an independent person, I have fairly liberal political views, and strongly believe in equal rights and liberty, that is I believe every person should have as much freedom, choice and rights as possible to lead their life how they wish, up until that choice begins to infringe on the rights of others (I don't think D/s relationships contradict this, after all, I believe in freedom and choice and that includes the freedom and choice to give up some of your freedom and choice ).

I enjoy going out for nice meals with good company, unwinding at a good bar, watching films, going to the theatre, debating with friends anything to do with politics, social issues or even football, breaks away are nice too, especially spur of the moment weekends away, I love pleasing my partner with surprise trips, as long as I'm certain I wont be overstepping the mark!

I'm single right now of course, I don't put huge expectations on any person I meet, I take relationships as they come, if it works for both parties great, if it doesn't for one or the other and the situation is unresolvable then at least it has been an experience, that's not to say I'm looking for casual relationships, I am looking for a relationship that I feel will have both a good physical and emotional connection as in past experience they're the relationships that I enjoy most. Communication above all is key I think.

I have waffled on a bit here, sorry, I appreciate you taking the time to read and if you think me might be suitable please do get in touch.

Any feedback is welcome actually, I'm new here!

Eye colour: Brown   Hair colour: Black   Height: 6ft 4in   Weight: 12st 5lb   BMI: 20.9  

This profile was last updated on 8 Oct 10, 9:17 AM.

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