I have many interests in my life and D/s is just one albeit an important one. I do believe however that ideally it should be coupled with a close personal relationship and so would want you to know me as indeed I you well first should you be interested.

My main interest is in the psychological side of BDSM as I believe it to be it's centrepiece and to reach into someones thoughts and desires whilst realising your own I think is the ultimate in the D/s exchange. The psychological suspense derived from Humiliation has always been something that has both fascinate and stimulated my mind in this respect as I find it challenging as well as rewarding. With this and other forms of mental challenge play believe me, the voice can be so much more powerful than any action. If you are aware of the meaning of this I would like to hear from you. This and certain other areas I venture into with only the right person and am very selective making no excuses for that. No-one knows everything so I like to see BDSM as a learning curve for me as well as the sub. Couple that with being loving, caring and having a great capacity to listen to someones needs and you can't lose with me!!

I have always been interested in the concept of securing relationships and how honest we are about doing so. Are we really honest with ourselves about what we wish to give and how much we want to take to/from a person and is this why some relationships fail ? I have seen fools jump in with the best of intention only to hurt and be hurt. I have also seen Experience not wisely used and will admit I have made mistakes myself in the past but I have learnt and continue to learn. Do you or do you just, maybe as many others continue to push on blindly?

One final comment on chatting on IM. If I give you my IM I will respect you by holding a conversation only with you and will not break away to chat to others. If you cannot give me the same respect please do not bother.

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