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IC Name: Sauvage_x Joined: 11 Dec 2007 Last visit: 3 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: South East London, UK Age: 27

Feelgood. Staying single for a while and having fun. In a good place of enjoying myself with plenty of wonderfully twisted friends and play partners.

Living and working back in London until at least July 2012. It's good to be back.

One of the organisers of Peer Rope London

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Laid-back in social settings. Sadistic behind closed doors. Allegedly a gentleman.

I'm mostly about private bondage, S&M, and sexually charged domination when the right connection is there. And cuddles. Always learning more, while having fun and trying to have some sort of balanced life along the way.

A new dimension to what I'm "about" has developed in the past year: Japanese-influenced rope bondage and the associated energy flow in the actual tying (as opposed to Western-style bondage where the restraint is typically a functional means to an end). Depending on the partner, this is less of a D/s thing and more about mutual give and take.

It takes a lot to earn my trust and it takes shared experiences away from munches and parties for me to "know" you. But I have a habit of getting along with people and helping newcomers so don't be shy to say hello.

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BDSM Side:

Kink doesn't rule my life, yet it is clearly an integral part of me (I figured that if I've been tying and torturing my cuddly toys since I was a toddler, it must be pretty deep) . But it isn't like there are qualifications for someone to be genuinely into BDSM. I don't think this has occurred to some people...

Since diving in head-first a couple of years ago, I've explored a lot (with real people, not cuddly toys, silly) and met wonderful friends and great teachers. A lot has "clicked" and I'm increasingly able to get into the heads of partners.

Safewords... officially I still use safewords but in practice I gauge the direction and reactions of play before safewords become necessary. Those safewords have been "red" or "slow down", or sometimes when they say something along the lines of "fuck-shit-bollocks-that-hurts-stop-now-owwwEEEE-f ucking-fuckety-fuck-cunt-shit-fuck" I also treat that as a safeword.

I like: ripping or cutting clothes off because I want access NOW, seeing the anticipation of pain that's about to come, predicament bondage, elegant and creative sadism, eye contact, squeals and moans, giving subs faux 'choices' over what will happen to them next, breast bondage and torture (my favourite), breath play, vulnerable outstretched nakedness, hot wax, nipple clamps, objectification, stockings with suspenders, caning... unapologetic abuse... the list could continue...

SShhh... Private. I've enjoyed playing in clubs like Crimson or ST, and at play-parties, but I prefer private intimate play based on established connection.

'Vanilla' Side:

• Current situation:I spent a lot of time in Nepal over the last two years, but now I'm in the UK. I've blogged about my experiences for my own amusement if no one else's: Nepal Part I: The Day I Sat on a Baby.
• I'm working in The City. I'm aiming to be one of those rare people with a successful career, satisfying kink, and some sort of balanced life.
• I'm a self-taught rubbish musician, in a casual strummy guitar sing-along out-of-tune in the park kind of way.

'Outgoing introvert': I connect best one-to-one and recharge when away from people.

No profile would be complete without this next section...

Things I like, in no order and not necessarily at the same time, include: eye contact, shops that charge you for plastic bags so you're encouraged to reuse them, sleep, France, Nepal, kisses with ouchy lip-bites, Haribo cola bottle sweets, and any experience that reminds you how great it is to be alive.

Other things that get their own bullet-point:

• I'm not at all religious.
• I wave my hands around when I talk.
• I'm half French and can sort of speak/blag it. I can also speak a little Nepali: Saajilo cha, Nepali basha malai manparcha.

• I'm a geek and so are you.

• I'd rather be sincere than superficially charming.
• I am an extremely slow eater.
• I push the toothpaste up from the bottom of the tube. I judge people who squeeze from the middle.
• I'm more or less into the "let's go save the world, guys" thing with recycling etc.
• I relate to Garfield, in that I love lasagne and hate mornings.

And Finally, Social Stuff: (aka appendix and bibliography)

As long as you show respect and value for people, I'm always up for meeting new friends. If you think we could get on, don't be shy, pluck up some courage and memo me or say hi at a munch. I prefer meeting people in real life over pratting about online.

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Some mantras/truisms/stuff/fluff/zen journey of inner exploration/ice cream:

"It's the people that make a place." "Others will value you as much as you value yourself." "The question is not whether we will die, but whether we will live." "Trust is feeling totally safe and secure while knowing you're totally vulnerable." "Leave her wanting more." "Our unconscious actions are the manifestation of our innermost thoughts." "A little humility goes a long way." "Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right." "Every person I meet is in some way my superior, and I can learn from them." "Sometimes, you get what you want but you lose what you have." "Value the journey, not the destination." "Help comes to those who help themselves." "If you keep on talking, you're bound to say something funny eventually." [insert all of Baz Lurhmann's 'Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen' here] "It is better to give than to receive." "Actions have consequences." "It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help." "Rely on yourself more than anyone else." "Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable." "Life is short, so move slooowly." "To a large extent we are judged as characters by our ability to make small-talk." "The best is still to come." "Opportunities multiply as they are seized..." "... but learn when to say 'no'." "Do things because you *want* to do them, not because you feel you have to." "Happiness comes from stimulation, not comfort." "Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." "It's not about what you say, but how you say it." "Train hard. Fight easy." Confidence can come from having a coherent story that you believe in. Sometimes it's the people who question the conventional wisdom around them who seem most uncertain but have the most to offer. "Madness is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results." "It is not when we grow old that we stop playing. It is when we stop playing that we grow old." "If you maintain your sexual energy, you maintain your life." "The only stupid question is the one you didn't ask." "Baby when it's love if it's not rough it isn't fun." "A scene starts long before the scene itself." "Just when you think you've hit rock-bottom, someone takes away the rock." "Carpe diem - seize the doughnut" "My nose is itchy." . "Silence is golden, duct tape is silver." "Care about the people you play with." "Respect the people you play with."

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MSN ID:sauvage_p@live.co.uk   Eye colour: Mixed   Hair colour: Dark Brown   Height: 6ft   Weight: 11st 3lb   BMI: 21.1  

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