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IC : Profiles : Remy_B
| Profile: | Remy_B |
| Created on: | 29 May 2006 |
| Last visit: | 17 hours ago  |
| Country: | UK |
| Location: | Sheffield |
| Sex/gender: | Male |
| Age: | 33 |
| Hair colour: | sand brown |
| Eye colour: | hazel |
| Weight: | 8st 5lb |
| Height: | 5ft 7in |
| BMI: | 18.2 |
| Sex/gender seeking: | Female | | Ad title: | Looking for a domme |
| Ad updated: | 97 days ago |
Well.. we'll see. I'm not 100% sure what I'm after atm. Maybe a bit of "whatever I can get"?  But here's a bit about me & my ideals.. although I'm not even sure they're possible.. just take it all as a dream or a fantasy I guess! 
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I seem to be what some books describe as a 'natural' sub. Every sexual thought or fantasy I've had that I can remember for my entire life has been submissive. I don't even really see any of it as a 'fetish' or a 'kink' - it is basically just me. What people describe as 'subspace' is the most natural thing to me, so much so that I don't really even realise it or can even distinguish it really - it's just me getting turned on normally.
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Likes:
What am I especially into? Well it's always hard for me to say because I feel I'm into everything and nothing in some ways. Almost anything can work for me, it's all about the context and mentally & emotionally what's going on. What's going on in the mind is so much more important than anything else for me. I =really= like being humiliated, controlled mentally and physically, tied down, 'forced' (but this can mean a variety of things) worship of my domme; I'm turned on by my helplessness & the dominant's power over me. Because it turns me on so much, that in turn makes me feel =even= more helpless as I am forced to realise I am actually liking it - which just sends me into a beautiful spiral of further submission.
I'm not especially masochistic, and it often feels to me like a domme is actually =losing= control if too much effort is put into physical pain-causing. Using the threat of pain to =control= is actually much more of a turn on to me than just the physicality of it. But as I say - really anything CAN work for me if it's 'done right' - I have, on a few occasitons, been really turned on by pain as well, but it's very tricky to get 'right' I find.
I've become very much more aware of my emotionally masochistic side as well over the past few years. I'm extremely cautious about this, as I know how dangerous & unhealthy it can get when 'done wrong'. Emotional masochism is pretty hard to explain, but there have been some excellent threads on it, here:
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/200057/3
and here:
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/173779/2
The closest thing I have to an specific physical 'fetish' I think is that I love being slowly, strokingly tickled - all over, but especially around my chest, underarms & nipples. This makes me feel so vunerable because for whatever reason the sensation is like an 'instant turn on button' on me that I have absolutely no control over no matter what else I am feeling physically, mentally, or even emotionally. For some reason, it's just such a willpower breaker for me. (And I actually have an enormous amount of willpower as a person!).
I've actually thought about and written down a lot more about my 'fantasies' and exactly what makes me tick, but I'd rather share that with individuals than everyone - & also I feel this profile is wordy enough already!
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Limits:
It's hard to say as I don't really know exactly what my limits are. But it's a safe bet I've not really ever reached them. 'Cold' unattached sadism can be a bit of a soft limit / turn off though. I like someone who can show they really =enjoy= their power over me. I like someone who will smile and laugh as they use me however they please. As is probably obvious, I'm more of an "abused sex toy" submissive, as opposed to a "servile" one. (But again, really, I have to note anything can & has worked for me).
The hard limits I do know I have are: Causing harm to others, anything that would cause even medium-term physical damage, or too much financial damage to me (eg: I couldn't do anything that would make me lose my job or home!). I also believe any kind of 'toilet play' would very likely be a hard limit for me.
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I wish I could say that physical attraction wasn't of huge importance, but I have to admit it really is for me, as it's the natural starting point - sexual desire - that makes me start to go submissive.
I'm going to run with a bit of a fantasy to help describe it, and I don't expect anyone to really be 'perfect' at all. But if they could be, my ideal domme is one that I find beautiful, sexy, strong & intelligent enough to make me feel completely inferior whenever they choose to do so. One who'll mock me, use me, abuse me, and most of all =enjoy= it. I want someone who really loves the fact I am helplessly lost and turned on by just being made to lick their boots or kiss their feet or worship their body. That simply their right choice of humiliating words can drive me crazy...
However, as a person & in my normal life I'm far from being a 'doormat' sub & there's a whole lot more to me than just my sexually submissive side. I think most people who know me would certainly say I have a lot of personality of my own, possibly too much at times. I even have quite an ego... and I don't think my sexuality makes me any "lesser" person in reality whatsoever. (I thought I'd better make that clear as I enjoy being made to feel completely the opposite as noted above). I rather 'goth' as is probably obvious, but I'm also very bouncey, friendly and open, and can be really fiery and passionate... And I'm a huge geek.
Well, I don't want to go on too much about the other sides of me here, but there's more about my more public side here:
http://www.myspace.com/remy_basara
(not that I visit it much anymore, so it's better to memo me here!)
Thank you to anyone who's actually taken the time to read all of this! This profile was last updated on 14 Dec 09, 11:31 PM
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