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| Profile: | Pascal_x  | | (Pascal_x donates money to help keep the site running) |
| Created on: | 11 Dec 2007 |
| Last visit: | 13 hours ago |
| Country: | UK |
| Location: | London/Camden |
| Sex/gender: | Male |
| MSN ID: | MSN_is_EVIL_it_steals_time |
| Age: | 24 |
| Hair colour: | Dark Brown |
| Eye colour: | Mixed |
| Weight: | 11st 3lb |
| Height: | 6ft |
| BMI: | 21.1 |
| Sex/gender seeking: | Female | | Ad title: | Unapologetic Abuse |
| Ad updated: | 49 days ago |
| A semi-musician, pseudo-scientist and dominant sadist amongst other labels. Laid-back in vanilla situations, a bastard (in the best possible way) the rest of the time. |
Despite all the awful things I do to @sweet_tooth, she keeps coming back for more and you will often see us enjoying events and experiences in tandem.
I'm more about private bondage, S&M, and sexually charged domination than everyday D/s psychology. Outside 'the bedroom' I am essentially 'vanilla'. My BDSM Side:
(aka chapters 2-11)
Kink doesn't rule my life, yet it is clearly an integral part of me (I figured that if I've been tying and torturing my cuddly toys since I was a toddler, it must be pretty deep)  . But it isn't like there are qualifications for someone to be genuinely into BDSM. I don't think this has occurred to some people...
 | Experience... Until seven years ago, the only thing that I had ever tied up was my teddy-bear. Since diving in head-first a couple of years ago, I've explored a lot (with real people, not cuddly toys, silly) and met wonderful friends. I spent last year in Nepal and vanilla-land, away from kink and play, but I've returned with a new acceptance and commitment to BDSM.
And something's clicked: I'm increasingly able to get into the heads of partners and read what's needed, whether it's taking control and removing the burden of responsibility from my partner, pampering them like a princess, rapey goodness, an exquisite beating, fear of the pain to come, or otherwise. It's a caring cruelty that depends on my partner, the nature of our relationship, and our level of intimacy. Regardless, the more I learn, the less I feel I understand.
"Kitten", "plaything", "object", "victim", "meat". Vocabulary can only allude to some of the head-spaces, even if it comes in an upside-down form of affection.
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Safewords... officially I still use safewords but in practice I gauge the direction and enjoyment of play before safewords become necessary. Those safewords have been "red" or "slow down", or sometimes when they say something along the lines of "fuck-shit-bollocks-that-hurts-stop-now-owwwEEEE-f ucking-fuckety-fuck-cunt-shit-fuck" I also treat that as a safeword.
Pascal likes: ripping dresses off because I want access NOW, seeing the anticipation of pain that's about to come, predicament bondage, relaxing with a good DVD and a cuddle from time to time  , elegant and creative sadism, giving subs faux 'choices' over what will happen to them next, breast bondage, breath play, vulnerable outstretched naked bodies, hot wax, nipple clamps, objectification, stockings with suspenders, caning... unapologetic abuse... the list could continue... - Warmth and hugs are also essential.
SShhh... Private. I've enjoyed playing in clubs like Crimson or ST, and at play-parties, but I prefer private intimate play.
I have a small switchy side. I'm open-minded, experimental, somewhat masochistic and sometimes meet particularly unflinching characters who can make me capitulate. And I'm often looking to bottom, to be on the receiving end of practice rope tying, beatings, and other experiences, so that I better understand the sensations and problems that my partners may in turn experience when I'm domming. If you want to practice on me at places like Peer Rope London, I will probably agree.
Genius
Even more of a genius - RIP My 'Vanilla' Side:
(aka chapters 12-17) - Current situation: My work is more-or-less humanitarian, about mother and baby health in developing countries. I spent a lot of time in Nepal over the last two years, but now the travelling's finished and I'm in the UK for the foreseeable future (woop!)
- I'm a self-taught rubbish musician, in a casual strummy guitar sing-along out-of-tune while smoking sheesha in the park kind of way. I used to run a 15-piece funk and jazz band and I nearly became a music producer as a profession. This is still a dreamy future plan.
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Random things I like, in no order and not necessarily at the same time, include: trying to play the guitar, people, not bumping into furniture, things that glow in the dark, eye contact, shops that charge you for plastic bags so you're encouraged to reuse them, sleep, France, Nepal, kisses with ouchy lip-bites, Haribo cola bottle sweets, and any experience that reminds you how great it is to be alive.
Other things that get their own bullet-point: - I'm not at all religious.
- I eat well, exercise most days and cycle to places.
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| I wave my hands around when I talk. |
- I'm half French and can sort of speak/blag it (kind of). I can also speak a little Nepali: Saajilo cha, Nepali basha malai manparcha!
- I'm a geek and probably so are you.
- I am an extremely slow eater.
- I push the toothpaste up from the bottom of the tube. I judge people who squeeze from the middle.
- I'm more or less into the "let's go save the world, guys" thing with recycling etc.
- I relate to Garfield, in that I love lasagne and hate mornings.
- I'm still forming political opinions and keeping an open mind. I even gave Nepal's Maoists a chance but alas they're a mixture of modern-day wannabe Lenins and Stalins and/or a bunch of murderous psychopaths.
And now: let's take the piss out of the Daily Mail... ONLINE POLL!: Should the NHS allow gypsies to jump the queue? And Finally, Social Stuff:
(aka appendix and bibliography)
As long as you show respect and value for people, I'm always up for meeting new friends. If you think we could get on, don't be shy, pluck up some courage and memo me. I prefer meeting people in real life over pratting about online.
| TREAD CAREFULLY:
The "scene" can be a minefield.
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xxx take care, and well done for reading down this far! - Pascal
Some mantras/truisms/stuff/fluff/zen journey of inner exploration/ice cream:
- "It's the people that make a place."
- "Others will value you as much as you value yourself."
- "The question is not whether we will die, but whether we will live."
- "Trust is feeling totally safe and secure while knowing you're totally vulnerable."
- "Our unconscious actions are the manifestation of our innermost thoughts."
- "A little humility goes a long way."
- "Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right."
- "Every person I meet is in some way my superior, and I can learn from them."
- "Value the journey, not the destination."
- "Care about the people you play with."
- "Respect the people you play with."
- "Help comes to those who help themselves."
- "If you keep on talking, you're bound to say something funny eventually."
- [insert all of Baz Lurhmann's 'Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen' here]
- "It is better to give than to receive."
- "Actions have consequences."
- "Rely on yourself more than anyone else."
- "Life is short, so move slooowly."
- "To a large extent we are judged as characters by our ability to make small-talk."
- "The best is still to come."
- "Opportunities multiply as they are seized..."
- "... but learn when to say 'no'."
- "It's not about what you say, but how you say it."
- "Train hard. Fight easy."
- "If you maintain your sexual energy, you maintain your life."
- "Baby when it's love if it's not rough it isn't fun."
- "Just when you think you've hit rock-bottom, someone takes away the rock."
- "Carpe diem - seize the doughnut"
- "My nose is itchy."
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