I'm a 27 year old male, studying for my masters degree down by the sea in Brighton. I've been into spanking and sexual dominance for as long as I can remember, and my experiences within this fetish to date have led me to the conclusion that any successful relationship I'm going to have is going to have to be with a girl for whom sexual submission is at the very core of her sexuality. So here I am.

That said, I wouldn't want my fetish to be the only thing I shared with someone I was with. I always go for girls with a slightly sardonic sense of humour and unless you can hold your own in a bit of banter, I doubt I'm the man for you! I don't want a doormat for a girlfriend, I think some of the most delicious moments in spanking come from the wordplay and the power battles that lead up to the moment. Without meaning to be too much of a bunny boiler about it, I am on the lookout for a girlfriend and not just a spanking buddy - it's not that I'd want to rush into anything with anyone, but I wouldn't want spanking to be the be all and end all of any contact that I had with someone. You need a connection outside of sex for a relationship to work and I would look to develop that a little before meeting somebody. Furthermore, sex reaches its zenith when you fuck each other as two people that know and care for each other, rather than just as two bodies bonded by physical attraction. That may sound a tad cheesy, but it is what I'm looking for and when it happens in reality it is amazing, so I'm willing to risk the bile of a more cynical reader..... (You're all failed romantics anyway. :P )

I am interested in other aspects of dominance and submission, particularly the mental side. I have always been attracted, both in friendship and in love, to people with strong personalities who know their own minds so I would never want control over someones life in that total sense. That said, I find the connection formed by a woman handing a part of herself over to my control one of the most intimate, engaging and exciting experiences imaginable. It is definitely something that I would want from a fully committed relationship, albeit with the boundaries in place to ensure both people are kept safe and sane. I want total control over certain areas of my partners life but what those areas are should be the result of discussion and agreement between both people as the relationship forms.

Sexually I'll try most things once - I've played a little bit with bondage in the past and found it to be most enjoyable - I am currently looking into increasing my skills with rope, so if any potential tutors are reading this, do get in touch! However, I think spanking, corporal punishment and the mental interplay that surrounds both of these activities will always form the basis of my sexual fantasies. I've written a few stories and posted them as weblogs - please feel free to have a look through them if you are interested in that side of my mind and do leave some feedback, if you feel you have anything interesting to say.

As for things outside of perversity, I'm a passionate Thai boxer in my spare time and compete fairly regularly. Thai boxing keeps me in shape and gives me an avenue of catharsis from lifes daily frustrations which is no bad thing. When I'm not training for bouts I enjoy going out and drinking with my mates more than is good for me, live music, stand-up, festivals, travelling, reading, walking to look at pretty things.... normal stuff really. Politically speaking every right winger seems to think I'm a hippy and every left winger seems to think I'm somewhere to the right of Anne Coulter, so does that make me some sort of horrible centerist? I do hope not. I like people who have their own interests, things that make them feel excited about life other than fucking 'Eastenders'. If you like the sound of my rambling above and don't use text speak when writing memos then get in touch! I'm always up for a natter.

NB - I've had to take my photo's off for professional reasons, but rest assured - I ain't a complete minger. I'll happily email photo's on request. Clean ones though! What do you think I am, some sort of pervert?