But, I guess, a profile with something written on it, is a useful thing to have on a site like this. It's nice to have something for people to read to get an insight into your mindset. It can only ever be an insight, a starting point. I've left mine blank for a while, but blankness is not really what I'm about.

My weblogs and posts probably give a good indication of my style of Dominance. It's a lifestyle for me, because it's at the very core of my personality and always has been. I'm not the stereotypical, leather clad, whip yielding Dominatrix. There are certain things I wear such as boots and stockings that make me feel sexy, but I don't need a vast array of fetish wear and props, the basics tend to work for me – collars, cuffs, gags etc.

To me, Dominance is an essential part of my sexuality and the natural way I tend to be with a partner. I basically don't do submission. I never switch. I don't see submission (or Dominance) as a gift, I see it simply as a personality trait to be cherished and developed – and enjoyed to the max.

I'm more into D/s than BDSM - the power exchange appeals and I like to be in charge, it works for me and I find it interesting and exciting with the right person. I think it's a good basis for a happy relationship. Having said that, BDSM does feature for me - but not in an extreme way, I see activities such as tying, teasing, humiliating, spanking, controlling and using someone for my sexual pleasure as all part of a natural D/s dynamic, which deepens as the relationship progresses. I'm just not into serious pain or abuse. To me, D/s is about both parties sharing, caring, loving and looking after each other, but indulging too. I have certain fetishes - oral worship in all it forms is a major one, but generally I just enjoy being served and submitted to - the interests ticked below are all those that I enjoy.

I'm not into 'the scene', i.e. I don't go to clubs or munches, but this doesn't make me a lesser Domme, I just don't happen to want to mix my sexual life with my social life, or need a huge network to boost my ego. I prefer to keep my sex life discreet and on a one-to-one basis and I enjoy a full vanilla life and all the ordinary aspects of a relationship beyond kink.