Vibrant, incisive and caring lifestyle Dominant in her forties looking to share views at deeper intellectual levels with people who define themselves more into the D|s dynamic.

I am NOT LOOKING FOR A sub/slave Thank you. I am grateful to own mine, my very special petty apprentice. He is doing very well for me and I am proud of him.

My quest is about freedom and beauty... a fusion of the souls through the female power...

To me

to be dominant is something you are and don't try to pretend you are, there is an art to it in the sense that a dominant will seduce just by being herself, confident and naturally assertive. She has a capacity to connect,communicate, perceive, evaluate and decide what is right to give and take. She inspires with her authenticity, her mind and passionate personality. Serious about what she requires she can bring her sub to desperate desires to give to her more and more. She knows what the word demanding love means, she cares for him and would not intentionally harm him. She sees and feels his efforts and is grateful to own him because of all of who he is and for his true submission. She requires from him and sets goals that are sensible but challenging and ambitious, she believes in his capacities to reach them. She knows how to keep him encouraged, reward, how to punish, how to coaxe him to do a little more... She is trustworthy and does not need to act in a bitchy way to make a point of her dominance, although she can be stern if necessary, on the contrary... a whisper, a look, a gesture....are often enough...She keeps him on the edge, surprises but does not betray... She likes clarity, is creative, expressive and also mysterious enough...she has the natural ability to keep his mind alert and excited effortlessly, easily. You can never own her but deserve her attentions and be worthy of her privileges. A true dominant does not need and want to compete with other women in fact she much prefers to be in solidarity with them. A dominant is open minded, empathetic, and she sets goals for another, but she also wants to perfect herself, excel at being dominant because it thrills her and she is interested in knowing how much more control she can have and gain from what is hers, her extension.. and personally I like to have common project and great vanilla times with my submissive but we always know who is who between us... This is what I think I am with mine, well I'm not perfect so I'll say aim to be!!!

to be submissive includes so many aspects too...but to me it is about wanting to give to a woman who has captured his mind and doing so in the purest of ways. He makes himself available to her in whatever way he is needed. He is not passive and lazy, he can express, communicate and is sincere. He thinks of how to please her naturally and also enjoys being commanded to. The only expectation he has is to be with Her in whatever form it is she prefers. And he has the belief that it will enrich him in so many ways. That she chose him is a privilege in itself and whatever happens next feels just right because he is serving her... even if he is only waiting to be of use. That purity of intentions is so erotic to me.. Because for me it is about receiving what I want in the form I need and for him it is the same since it is highly erotic and what we understand that it is . Only then can he really feel me, can I really show my emotions and my beauty, because he touched my heart so much by giving himself completely. He then can have access to my secret garden without censure, being who we truly feel we are togethe. I need authentic passion and commitment at a level that most cannot start to imagine possible and this dynamic allows me with someone who I perceive fits me like a glove to feel who I am more, who he is more and go into unison together, there, in that special space we have created. I also need that a true submissive to understand and accept who he is. It is very difficult to celebrate with someone who is ashamed and rejects his own nature. A mature submissive knows he is not an inferior being because of his need to be. therefore he can connect freely with his mistress in a submissive manner because he knows that his submissiveness is exclusive to them.

True, I like to feel I have the edge on that one, the one I chose, the one who is so precious to me. However, I also need to have respect, admiration, desire for him, sense his uniqueness. True, I like to feel he wants to please me again and again and give me those proofs, the ones I want, expect, need and require.. And I only give to him because I take from him and he gives to me because I do, to the extent where it becomes totally confusing in the mind as to who is. That can be only because She is She and he is he... and it feels, oh...! just so right to each other!

Does it have to be said that I have no need nor interest for discontinued events in the form of 'play' or scenes..