I've found a wonderful woman who needs male authority and discipline in her life, and who's attracted to me, oddly enough. Hooray! If things go to plan, that'll get deeper and more sublime by the day. It means I'm not doing dates, of course: potential friends are welcome, though.

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I'm an intelligent bloke, an intellectual even, who's not just kinky (though I am that, I confess) but funny, confident, flirty and, a few wonderfully discerning people say, sexy. I've done a fair bit of this kinky stuff: I love dominating girlfriends - giving them orders, controlling their appearance, punishing them, tying them up - but I've not done enough of it, and realise now that I need a really serious BDSM relationship. I'm here to find a partner who'll want to share it all with me, so I can stop wasting the time of vanilla women who don't really want to go on an unusual journey - and even of kinky women who don't want to go as deep and as far as I do.

I'm looking for 24/7, or at least something like that: I'm not a great believer in terminology, because people mean such different things even when using the same terms, but I am interested in deep dominance and submission as the permanent foundation of a serious, long-term relationship. I need to know that I possess my partner - that I own her - and that she lives under my authority. It's the quality of my dominance, of her submission, and the bond between us that's important.

A woman who wants to be with me can expect a high level of control, together with corporal punishment, lots of bondage, and some humiliation - though never in public. For me, this is a private thing. In addition, I have strong sense of my own masculinity, and demand femininity from my woman: if necessary, by feminising her. I want a partner who's a lady, and if need be I'll make her more ladylike. Finally, she'd find I had a serious interest in her, would appreciate her qualities and consider her needs and desires, and would support her in a way few men support their woman. I would want her to be as happy and fulfilled as she could be, and to improve every day, and would help her achieve those things.

Apart from the kinkiness, I have a life and rate myself quality boyfriend material. I'm a big reader, mainly of 20th century and new fiction, but also of poetry; I listen to trendy contemporary classical music and jazz, and I do other artsy stuff like theatre, going to little poncey galleries, and to the pictures - and not just to watch "Secretary". I cook, too, adventurously but in spite of that, not badly, and I dance, tango (with high passion and attitude), ballroom (I'll get get there one day) and latin (slowly). I live and work in London in a terribly fun highish-flyingy thing, while having another cool mini- career or two on the side. I'm sensible and presentable, the type of evil kinky bastard you can introduce your friends to, not an awful bore or a horror, honest. I talk but amazingly enough I listen, too, and conversation with me is fun especially for brainy girly swots who are clever, although bluestockings who fancy me had better prepare to meet their match.

I am AGAINST football and bloody piped music, and religious extremism. I am for courtesy and equanimity and good English.

Some women say I seem "too nice": well, I am friendly and pleasant, sure, and I'm also very real - I am not pretending to be anything I'm not, or putting on a snarling villain act to try to impress you. Nor does being dominant mean I've had my sense of humour amputated. But I have been called "authoritative", "powerful", "all man" and "very dominant", and I most certainly have a deep masculine perverted side.