Having been involved in BDSM for about 8 years, I have had some amazing experiences, but now I seek an accomplice to share in my adventures.

BDSM is about life, and how it moves in time with everyday life, sometimes crossing, sometimes absorbing, sometimes veering off at a tangent, but no matter what else, BDSM MUST exist alongside a 'vanilla' life, the intensity of the fantasy created, balanced with reality. I believe that all people are created as equals, we choose our own paths and in doing so, neither is less or more important than another to the course of life.

D/s is a natural thing, we instinctively understand ourselves and our roles. I know what I want, and what I desire from a submissive. For me it is about where we naturally feel our own levels, it is about control, sometimes without guidance, sometimes most definately with.

I prefer to make a suggestion of my desire that is considered a pleasure to acquiesce to, rather than an outright demand, command or order; subtle control is my preference.

I follow a simple creed: Respect is mutually given, Dominance and submission are earned.

I have a penchant for role play , the dynamic of the scene; the confession, the chastisement, the contrition and the forgiveness....this can come through many forms, I would enjoy discussing this with you.

Apart from BDSM, I enjoy an intense love affair with the songs of Nick Cave, Mr Cash, PJ Harvey, The Tindersticks, VNV Nation, Evenessence, STID, NIN, Prodigy and Nina Simone but could be described as having a very eclectic musical taste, that is ranging between Goth/Metal/EBM/Rock/Classical/Industrial music. I also enjoy most genres of cinema, entertainment, media and modern art (especially the works of Anthony Gormley), Radio 4, I attend the theatre and watch some TV.

Clubs, both kinky and vanilla are also of interest. Hades, Lovetrix, occasionally TG and the London Goth Clubs. LAM , London Munch and also BBB from time to time, but I feel just as at home on the big sofa in the pub, curled up reading the sunday papers, the bench in the park on a cold blustery day, just as much as I am in the dark alcove of a club surrounded by the sound of pleasure...

I have a burgeoning interest in photography, and although strictly non-professional, I aspire to make my work the best it can be and for it to bring me and others pleasure.

I have to admit, I'm not the worlds fittest guy, but hey, thats my problem and one I'm sorting out.

Most of all, I feel that this lifestyle is so amazingly diverse and encompasses so much that I will never stop learning from it, do you want to learn with me?

I look forward to hearing from you!