Laurence Alexander 2011

IC Name: Laurence_Alexander Joined: 27 Feb 2011 Last visit: 271 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: Norfolk, UK

BACKGROUND

I was introduced to the UK D/s scene back in 1975 aged 24 - way before the internet when the only way into the 'scene' was to know someone already in it. At that time the 'community', if one can use such a term, was relatively small and being accepted took time - so one needed patience and some level of ability before being considered as a dominant.

My mentor back then was a most elegant lady of a 'certain age' who's skill, inventiveness and stylish adherence to etiquette left an indelible mark upon my own practice. "Always remember ..." she would say "... domination is an art and should be practised with grace and dignity. Any idiot can shout and chop wood. "

In 1988, as an aside to my 'day job' within the 'British Criminal Justice System', I founded a small company called Roissy Workshops and with Mike 'The Prof' designed, built and installed 'kinky playrooms' for serious players. We also created a number of heavy duty devices that made up a travelling 'package' able to convert any venue into a BDSM playroom - billed at one point as 'the largest travelling BDSM fairground in Europe'.

As regards our current events:- Roissy Workshops can be found at Club Lash in Manchester on the second Friday of each month.

PERSONAL

I have a professional knowledge of psychology (by that I mean formally qualified in the field via a real University followed by a real internship and over 20 years continuous paid employment as a registered clinical practitioner evaluating and treating psychosexual behaviours).

'Scenewise', I have a working knowledge of anatomy and physiology and am reasonably competent with the usual implements - paddles, floggers, single tails, canes, jelly, ice cream, wet celery etc. I can throw rope around a body with some confidence in a number of styles and can execute suspension scenes without danger - I always wear a hard hat. Over the years I have become practised in other forms of sensation play including fire and electricity - but for my part all of that is merely icing on the 'cake' of D/s power exchange - the most effective 'tool' for quality D/s is the mind, both in the creation and perception of any situation.

I consider myself as somewhat 'old school' D/s rather than a 'BDSMer'. I value good manners and politeness in both dominants and submissives. Whilst I am always happy to explore limits and boundaries I do not do 'brats', 'bottom topping' nor needy individuals seeking a maladapted cathartic therapy to subvene deep seated emotional problems through BDSM.

LIFESTYLE

I am in a long term relationship with a dominant female - Madam E - in effect we are a dom couple thus our 'household' operates with a 'Master and Mistress' of the house. Over the years this has enabled some interesting interactions with various submissives including some 'sub couples'. Neither of us is 'exclusive' as far as D/s activities go - however we are 'selective' about those we take on.

We also have a delightful 'daughter' in the shape of Sammi who has been with us since 2004. Just to be clear, Sammi plays her chronological age - not a regressed 'child role'. This 'fixes' her position in the 'family dynamic' and prevents confusion with subs.

PERSONAL MAXIMS

"The size of your toybox is no indicator of your ability to dom."

"Two pieces of leather and a silly hat is no substitute for experience and strength of will"

Labels such as Master, Mistress, Dom are just things that you wear - Respect is something you earn. (This also applies to sub and slave too).

"The terms 'brat' and 'sub' are mutually exclusive."

"Never mistake tolerance for weakness."

"Never Drink and Dom - it's like Karaoke - you think you are wonderful, every one else thinks you're a prat"

"The clinical definition of a sadist is 'one who possesses no discernible empathic concern for others'. So a dom who maintains they are a sadist and that they care for their subs is rather like King Herod maintaining he is into child welfare.

This profile was last updated on 20 Mar 11, 3:39 AM.

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