'nilla me..

IC Name: KinkyWinky Joined: 26 Aug 2004 Last visit: 254 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: London, UK Age: 33

Well I'm Kinky and I have a Winky...... lol what else am I supposed to write? Ok so time for a long over due update!!

The story so far...

So I've been kicking around on the scene now for about a year. After many years of sitting at home in front of my computer masterbating and basically doing f**k all about anything, I came out on the scene!! I've been frequenting such great events as The London Munch (one of my favs), Subversion, Pedestal (also one of my favs), STs, LAM, London Fetish Fair, U35s and Esinem's Rope Bondage Course.

A year ago, everyone thought I was a good boy and I was a good boy (although a closet bad boy) but now I am a bad boy and I have a reputation for being a slut! (which I think is simply not true! lol) I've been called a 'pretty boy' and most of my friends think I'm gay, when in fact I'm not...... or am I? Bit bi-curious perhaps but I'm just a very sexual being and very in touch with myself. Whatever! I'm not putting myself in a box, thats just way too simple for such a complex, twisted, perverted and f**ked up individual like me! I'm very open minded and I'll try anything twice. If I didn't like it the first time I was probably doing it wrong!

So this last year I've met loads of great, kinky people and made lots of new friends! I've also learned new things about myself, I've discovered the real me and come to terms with who and what I am. I'm a slutty, switchy, sub that everyone thinks is gay!! lol. What a year!

Want to know more about me? The real me....

Ok so I'm not the kind of sub that has no self worth and wants to just be abused. I'm very deeply submissive but this is a very big, intimate and precious part of me that I don't give away lightly. As a true submissive and having been submissive my whole life I've learned to respect myself and greatly enjoy my natural giving nature and deep wanting to please. I don't submit to just anyone but when I do I choose to submit. The kind of dominant I click with are those that understand the true needs of a submissive, the ones which know how to draw my submission from me.

I've been submissive as long as I can remember, I first noticed my kinks at a very young age, 7 or so, as I always wanted to play tying up games and guess who always ended up getting tied up?

I've had submissive sexual fantasies my whole adult life. I learned about submission and BDSM about 8 years ago and have since then been learning more and more about myself and this very intriguing part of me, which I really want to share and explore.

I'm not your average kinda guy. I'm very in touch with my sexuality, most people think I'm the gayest non-gay person alive, which I must admit amuses me, especialy as the way I see things, never say never. lol. I morph and I change and like to push boundaries and experiment with new things and learn about the things I love. I love to self improve and am well educated, I'm technical, a perfectionist, musical and creative. I like to be creative not just musically but sexually also.

In my day-to-day life, I'm the kind of personality that gets noticed, I'm in fact quite surprisingly dominant in my everyday life. I know what I want and I go get it. I work in a challenging day job in Web Development and I'm also a DJ, music producer and promoter and am very active in the London dance music scene. I'm also considering perhaps doing things in the London Fetish Scene also but all in good time.

I love to have stimulating and deep chats about the more important things in life. I love to be challenged, mentally, physically and sexually.

As a person, I'm easy to get on with, I'm sociable, love a good social life, having a good time meeting people and going to munches, bars and clubs. I like to keep things varied and interesting and am looking for that like minded individual to share my life with and explore our kinks.

Having been in relationships in the past which simply left me feeling like a freak, unsatisfied and frustrated I now know what I'm looking for and am happy to wait until I meet the right person I can adore who respects me and adores me back.

Kinky me...

As a true submissive I really love it when the mentality of a scene is right. I love to be in my place as an adoring, serving devoted slave. I have a very high pain threshold and like to push my limits, be tied, tested and teased and show my devotion by taking pain to please. I like my limits to be tested and they have been pushed fairly hard in the past. Although saying that I'm more into DS than SM but pleasing and and serving is what I find rewarding.

The surprising thing is that even though I know I am really a submissive I have switched in the past also. As I know what a submissive needs I know how to inflict this too and this I find very intriguing. This is an area I've not hugely explored but would like to more in the future.

What I'm looking for...

Ideally I'm looking for a woman who knows how to mould a submissive man. I'm looking for someone who is kinky through and through and open to trying new things. Although I do want to be with someone who generally takes the dominant role, it'd be great to occasionally switch also. I'm looking for a very sexy personality and natural want to have me at their feet. I'm looking for a creative individual who is inventive.

In the end I'm looking for a person to share my life with, who likes, cooking good food and being cooked for, fine wine, holidays, travelling, music and festivals as well as someone who has a deep understanding of themselves and wants to share that in a way which I think really gives a deeper more exciting and intimate relationship. You can't force this though, so it will happen when it happens.

In the meantime if you want to meet me at a munch, club or just socially get in touch. I'm always on the look out for exciting new play partners and ideally a longer term partner. Otherwise if you see me on the scene come and say hello, I won't bite...... hard!

Eye colour: Brown   Hair colour: Black   Height: 5ft 9in   Weight: 10st 10lb   BMI: 22.0  

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