I only sub to Jon or when Jon is involved. Needless to say I don't now, never have or never will Domme Jon. He only does Dom And I don't want it any other way.

So having got the lecture bit out the way, what now? I can't spell and am poor with grammar, not because I am a lazy heffer, I am Dyslexic.

I am a keen biker, and sometimes even pillion (only with Jon). I have my own Harley which Jon built for me(see my pics) and ride with Jon. We don't do bike clubs these days as it seemed to be more about how much chrome you could afford and less about riding... correlation with BDSM look how many toys I have but I never use them because I'm single/ can't / have no clue

I like to sew. I love reading.

I love the social aspects of the scene but really am not so keen on playing in public these days as I when I do, I only want to be restricted by Jon's rules no one elses. I don't do safewords with Jon as if he doesn't know me after over 8 years I am in trouble.

Not awfully keen on all the rules that seen to be appearing and so called experts either. Especially love the ones that think you shouldn't play if you have consumed alcohol in the last 48 hours. Also I socialise for fun, if it is not fun then I don't want to do it. I do dislike people who cannot be respectful, treat others as you wish to be treated.

At the risk of sounding like grumpy old woman I preferred the scene 10 + years ago as people seemed more respectful and knowledgeable.

Safe, sane and consensual. Always consensual, I gave my consent for him to do as he please 8 + years ago. Sane not sure this should apply the more insane, the more fun. Safe, not sure I can go along with this either maybe as safe as possible within your boundaries, some of the best stuff we have done has not been that safe. If I wanted to be safe I'd give up my motorbike as well

When I go out in the scene I like to have a laugh and enjoy the company of like minded souls.

I am fascinated by history and anthropology, particularly Roman history and pre Christian history. I am intrigued by Pagans and would love to find out much more.

I like ritual it appeals to the deeper me more than I could describe in words. I love scenes that involve ritual. Jon is introducing it slowly, and it's good.

I have a career and professional life in which I have to be in control and often upset people defending the fairly indefensible. I dislike what I do but it pays the bills.

If I am riled or wound up will attack verbally. A pet hate is being touched by people I don't know who assume too much. Just to contradict that I am very tactile with those I know and like.

I have been with Jon for over 8 years and my dearest wish is too spend the rest of my life with him. We met through BDSM and our relationship has developed to be fully rounded. He is my Master, Dom, Husband; he is also my lover, my friend, father to my children, my confidant, and all round soul mate.

Slave or Sub, not sure, who cares anyway. I belong to Jon and please him, who needs to label it. Please don't think that makes me a doormat, I am anything but. Strong, wilful, cheeky whatever. Jon has my respect, a number of our friends have my respect, be they top or bottom. Anyone else who wants it has to earn it.

We argue and fight, love and live, sleep and walk together. We also enjoy following the path that BDSM, D/s takes us on. Always learning more lets hope the road never ends.

I would do anything to protect those I love friends and family.

So after all that serious stuff, I also like to go out with my friends and be very silly. On the list of things to do is be arrested, get banned from a pub, shop, club and munch .

Dom baiting is a particularly fun pursuit, those that assume you should respect them because they say so (kneel Bitch types). So I guess I have a cruel side too . An observation on this is the people who are naturally Dominant never rise to this, only the wannabees

Love to meet and make friends with like minded people. If you see me out and about please say hi. I don't bite but quite like being bitten. As I am 6ft tall, have long dark hair and am a hefty built lass, you should have no problem spotting me

My toppy side makes the occasional bid for freedom and most people assume I am a top. I guess I could be and it would be possibly easier to top as I get subby for very very few. My toppy/ bossy/ agressive side is easily activated. I have bit of a yearn to do a school mistress type role play and as I have tutored in the past think I could be quite convincing. Only problem is my hand/eye co ordination is not too hot so as long as you don't expect me to just hit your arse we would be fine. ( I am only allowed to so this if Jon approves first)

Most likely to be spotted round the Midlands, the BBB, Dudley Dungeon are particular faves, with the odd trip to Caesars. Also occasionally venture down sarf to the Bedford are to see my fellow tormentor.

My family always comes first and I do have alot of family commitments so if they need me, kink is cancelled.

We did used to go oop norff to Manchester but since eldest child has moved there and is out and about we have not ventured out in Manchester. Visions of bumping into my children (OK he is over 18) in a club is really a very hard limit.

Have fun xx