I'm very into D/s using every day life - I love the clash of you every day eating at the dining table that you were beaten against rather than the fantasy of the remote dark dank cellar. Its about using what's to hand, not oodles of specialist kit. As with every journey through life I'm always learning and adding to what I like but hair play especially fascinates me, I guess it's a mix of the intimacy, meddling with a key aspect of your vanity and the ability to do it anywhere anytime. As to the rest, it may sound strange but if you like it, say so - communication is the key after all. In physical play I love bondage, especially where there's an element of double jeopardy, I love the look of Shabri bondage (and have been a publically published model for someone's work) but two old stockings are just as good, its not the means, its the ends you reach. I also swing an evil hand, flogger or paddle and enjoy your enjoyment of the pain - its not for me its for you honest . As to the rest, it may sound strange but if you like it, say so - communication is the key after all

Outside the BDSM word I have the mini dommes, 2 delightful nearly teenage girls, from my previous marriage. I live in my own place in Hemel Hempstead, a bijou chocolate box village north of London, well it was till they built the new town and I moved there. For a newspaper I buy the Independent but I'll read the print off anything that stands still long enough. I love films and music - anything from Blues to Heavy Rock and all points in between as long as its live. In my career I'm a high flying Project Manager working in the construction industry, you need a road atlas to see most of my earlier "portfolio" of work but the highlights include parts of the M3 and the Jubilee Line.

Thoughts I try to live by:

"Ride Forever, you ain't dead till you say you are" - RCMP

"Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed." - Alexander Pope

"Every man dies. Not every man really lives." - Braveheart

"I can accept failure, but I can't accept not trying." - Michael Jordan

"Life is understood looking backwards but it must be lived forwards." - Soren Kierkegaard

"I am not young enough to know everything" - Oscar Wilde

"Always do what you are afraid to do." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

"If it isn't broken, don't try and fix it" - my dad

"There's no problem you can't solve with a good fire" - me

"Never spend more on ice cream than you do on condoms" - someone cleverer than me

I also run the Hemel Munch and own the profile for that munch so I can let people know of any changes & events, though this isn't a sock puppet. I'm also Mr Lovetrix apparently.