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Current Projects

U35 London Munch Forthcoming dates for U35 munches in London: Saturday 22nd November Friday 19th December Xmas Special Saturday 17th January Saturday 21st February Further Details Kinky Photoshoots I'm looking for a variety of people for a few sets of artistic and shibari photo shoots involving various bondage and kink concepts etc. Don't worry if you're not a 'perfect model' - that's not what I'm after. Needle Art Needle bunnies will also be useful, as well as other needle artists to work with. "Training of O" submissives I'm about to start a very labour intensive idea which was inspired by Kink.com. I will be taking individual subs into a 'Training of O' style scenario for a predetermined amount of time (between approximately 2 and 4 days). I'll have them regularly complete a journal, as will I, throughout which will be written up to IC. The training regime will be tailored to the individual and designed to push them to safely experience more than they typically would. This, I hope, means a realisation of some things about the fantasy vs reality of 24/7 as well as a whole host of other emotions and experiences for those involved. This is clearly an extremely complex concept which requires a large amount of discussion and mutual trust, respect and communication before being undertaken. If you're interested in finding out more then do feel free to get in contact and ask questions.

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Relationships

TheKey TheKey is my partner. We have a poly dynamic. Whether we're looking is a difficult question to ask with no easy answer though I'm afraid. For now, 'playmates' are fine.

Our Search I'm keeping an eye out for a polyamorous, bisexual, young lady (18-35ish), preferably London based, who has a passion for humiliation, objectification, fear play, rope bondage and psychological submission.

Me

Basics Right then, well, I'm a relatively young but experienced Dom male who's just graduated in Engineering from Nottingham. I'm always happy to make friends or educate and help interesting characters of any age or experience into the fascinating world of BDSM. I believe that a D/s relationship fundamentally comprises of mutual trust and respect, without these things it is doomed to failure. I'm quite laid back and although Dominant in and out of the bedroom I believe strongly in all the traditional values of gentlemanly behaviour my parents crammed down my throat all those years! I love being Dominant and always a moral person I aim to protect, support and if needs be correct my sub - to aid learning, oh yeah, and just because its bloody fun! Deeper Basically, I enjoy helping people. While at Uni I used to be a life coach in confidence, character and assertiveness but I'm now starting to teach Domination techniques (both to men and women) which I'm willing to pass on. This can be anything from attracting a sub/Dom/me, making effective use of "subspacing", using day to day D/s interaction, helping people learn how to Dominate their partner in an SSC environment or even how to encourage their partner to control them. I have good gut instincts and use this within my Domination to put myself into the shoes of the other person. I'm particularly adept at psychological Domination and control, using personal NLP and pavlovian conditioning, suggestion, positive psychological reinforcement and subtle forms of hypnosis to aid and encourage sub spacing. D/s scenes are to me as much about the mental connection as the physical feeling. Contact me if you are interested in any of the above areas. References available. Deeperer while I do use a lot of rope, impact play, fear play etc my speciality is within psychological Domination and I train every person as an individual based on what their personality requires. I push people to really submit themselves rather than just pretend to submit as a fantasy. I encourage them to feel the deepest feelings submission has to offer. I discourage 'roleplaying submission' as an aid to detaching themselves from the situation in a bid to maintain a level of control. A big part of my extended training becomes training the mindset within scenes so that you get more from them - dealing with any fears of losing control, inability to trust, fears of weakness, general phobias, Topping from the bottom, how to gain more pleasure from impact play and other 'pain', quick subspacing and pavlovian responses to help induce orgasm, more intense general submissive feelings etc. I don't use safewords (although this is actually debatable), but that certainly doesn't mean that I don't listen - I am always aware of the mental and physical state of the submissive and can generally read a reaction before they know how they will react themselves. I am always safe, sane and consensual... Though I practice R.A.C.K.

String Stuff

I am still working regularly with rope, although my focus has now changed. I have reached a wall. Up until now I have focused on learning from those far more experienced than me who have taught me the standard ties. However, all the things which I really enjoy are the things I have taught and developed myself. Keeping in mind what I have learnt I am now developing my own style from scratch. I offer all those who have educated me so far my most humble gratitude. My basic theory with rope bondage is that the rope is in fact the least important part and it's the D/s interaction which holds the beauty and emotion.

Extra Lark

I am not interested in just a "quick shag". I want people who know or want to know about D/s. Enjoying the sexual aspect is great and important but for me there's more to D/s than sex and anyway, the great sex only comes when you can actively explore the most intense human emotions. Having said that I can't buy into the classic sound byte of "D/s is not about sex" because personally, I believe that all D/s practices, even the most mundane, have undercurrents of sexual tension beneath them simply because they are power exchange and the Dominant and submissive people are excited by that exchange. Like a subtle form of emotional foreplay that can last hours, days, even weeks. If you type using "bare amunts uv dis tlk" chances are you're "not my type". The ability to construct coherent sentences both verbally and in type is important to me. If you're an idiot then move on, but I doubt you've read this far if you are anyway. Feel free to get in contact if you're interested or just want to chat.

Quotes

A hero of mine wrote: "If you kick someone in the balls, make sure you're smiling." Jack Handy wrote: "If trees could scream, would we be so cavalier about cutting them down? We might, if they screamed all the time, for no good reason." "The most predictable thing about people is their inability to accept their own predictability."

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Patrick

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