After six or seven years in various part of the bdsm scene - and veteran of several fairly long term d/s relationships, I resume my ongoing quest - older, better informed, but probably not much wiser in that I am still naive enough to hope and strong enough to care.

I have a very short grey crewcut hair (the beard went early this year), am lightly built (sounds better than slim). Up to now I have been mainly dominant, and switched roles from time to time with various partners with varying degrees of success. However, I now find myself increasingly interested in being part of a serious longterm and balanced switch relationship.

I have considered carefully what kind of submission and domination attracts me. Up to this point my experience has been principally of sensation-based play - But I now seek something which while it may - perhaps will - involve sensation play, is based primarily on the deeper psychological and emotional elements. That will take time to develop I know, but it also means that the instantanteous 'kneel and worship, slut' school of d/s is unlikely to appeal to me. My submission, like my dominance, is worth a lot to me and I will not give it either of them lightly. So I am looking to find a switch worth building a lasting relationship with.

I cross dress and am bi-sexual (but am not obsessive about either). I dislike fixed attitudes and stereotyped ideas about d/s. I am divorced, live alone, am professionally employed and solvent, with diverse cultural and artistic interests, which means I have a preference for the company of intelligent people who can sustain a conversation. I am not a doormat and cannot be obtained on the discount shelf at Homebase. I like clothes and dressing to please and impress - as well as public and private play. And I am here on this site to meet people - not conduct interminable online webcam flirtations.

So having now reduced my readership to a fraction of its original size (which was not large) - welcome. And congratulations on making it this far.

I seek a serious, sensitive and open minded female switch. I offer and expect honesty, discretion integrity and commitment. Since the dynamic that interests me is only likely to be nurtured by regular contact, someone who lives not too far from me would be an advantage. And if I ask for those qualities in you - it's reasonable to assume I am prepared to offer no less in return.

You may share my passion for some or all of the following: elaborate and extended roleplay; lingerie; spanking/CP; cross dressing; wax; violet wands; shibari; clips and clamps; floggers; chains, cuffs and collars; queening, CBT, humiliation, fireplay, fetish clubs, anal and pony play. But that's just a list. I have no desire to supply a table d'hote menu of the d/s play I require. Who you are matters more than what we do. With the exception of the some common sense hard limits (children, animals, breath play, scat, blood, permanent marks) I am open to whatever pleases us both.

Email me if you would like to know more.

Dec 2011

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