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IC Name: DeviantDr Joined: 9 Aug 2007 Last visit: 24 days ago Sex/gender: Male Location: London, UK Age: 30

Life is not just Kink... A relationship cannot live by kink alone. I dont want someone who is only kink, I want a partner, a best friend, someone to laugh and joke with, and when the time is right, someone to explore a particular side of myself and them together... just as you might explore new movies together, or a holiday somewhere you have never been on before...

Its all part of the tangles threads that make us 'us' and make a relationship a relationship.

Note: Profile is long winded, apologies, have been meaning to give it a rewrite for well over a year now.

What I will say is this.... BDSM, Kink, whatever you choose to call it, is only one thread in me, there are many others, many I haven't even noticed yet.

Who Am I?

Been involved in BDSM etc. for many years, recently have been out of the scene but looking to get back into it, ideally looking to find a long term slave to train and collar. In the past have played around with different subs / slaves, but know that this never allows me the deeper connection im really looking for. (From now on I use the term Slave, but please understand, your definition of sub and slave may vary from mine, so please do not assume so much by its use, if in doubt, ask me!).

Let me take you by the hand and walk with you into that dark place within you, hold you as you look over that edge, and pull you back from it when you need me to and hold you close.

While I can be quite Physically Dominant, and with the right slave very sadistic, this very much varies from slave to slave. I do however always like heavy psychological play sometimes one slap can feel like 10 if the mind is in the correct state.

I believe that a slaves submission and gift of control is a wonderful thing, and it is important to realize why a slave gives over control, that they are not punching bags, or doormats, and that telling them “kneel bitch” or “I am now your Master” is only going to make you look stupid. It is there choice to kneel, and it is there choice if and when they choose to be “owned” not something for you to demand, it is however something you should accept with respect and gratitude if they offer it.

However this does not stop me from having you provide me with pleasure, be it sexually or in some other way, sometimes your submission, and willingness to push your limits is fun enough. It is also important to remember the difference between a submissive and a slave and to constantly move forward together.

I prefer to use psychological play, bondage, and mild pain (up to heavy but very dependent on the slave). Love bondage, cbt, tt, leather, rubber, wax, sensory depravation, anal, collars, Power Exchange, Discipline, Domination, humiliation, masochism, oral, rimming, spanking, talking dirty, toys, whip etc....

What Do I Need?

Well, many people say what they want, but I guess in my mind Ds is something I need, it's a part of me. I guess I see Ds, BDSM etc as being intertwined within the fibred of my body. I am not looking for one off sessions, or just playing. I'm looking for a relationship, in which Ds plays a part, but is neither the whole, nor a section of it which is turned on and off when we decide to play. I believe that a relationship should exist in al aspects of live, be it what society perceives as 'vanilla' and what we consider as Ds.

Do I Want A Sub or Slave?

There are many definitions of what is a sub and what is a slave, not are wrong, it's just a matter of personal opinion. I state that I'm looking for a slave, but what to me is a slave?

Slavery to me isn't about having a servant without question, a punching bag, or a doormat. Slavery is a state of mind. In my mind, a sub is someone who likes to submit, but ultimately, through limiting what they submit to retain ultimate control. A slave gives over that control. It does not mean they don't have opinion, in fact they should have opinion, and those opinions should be listened to, but the ultimate control should sit with the Master. A Slave can live without constant control, but knows that with a look, or a call, they will submit to the one they call Master. A slave and a Master should move forward together, there relationship should be a balance between BDSM and 'vanilla' life. Following a heavy session, a slave should be held close, talked to, cared for, as at all times. Heavy play doesn't just have to mean a heavy spanking, but more importantly after forcing a strong psychological response from the slave. In public, and at work, a slave should always be seen as a 'vanilla' member of society, but underneath always know what they are owned. Sometimes they may receive a call, or a txt, or an email, telling them to carry out a task. It could be as simple as going to the toilet and removing their underwear, or only drinking one sort of drink in particular, but it would remind them of there ownership. Having behind there eyes that pearl of knowledge that they were owned, cared for, and controlled. A slave should be held close, cared for, and always listened to. Slavery is not being told what to do, it is giving the final decision as to what to do to the Master your trust. Many think limits need to be set in tone, but to me, slavery is without limits, or at least truly defined ones, HOWEVER, the trust control given over to the Master by the slave, means that to go beyond the limits of the slave and then to keep going without taking there opinion into consideration, is a breakdown in that trust. While a slave allows a Master control, it does not mean the master has to use it all. It is the ability to truly understand the limitations of the slave, and not over extend them, that makes one a Master, not just a bully.

Eye colour: Brown   Hair colour: Brown   Height: 5ft 10in   Weight: 11st 5lb   BMI: 22.6  

This profile was last updated on 6 Jul 11, 11:07 PM.

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