• Gödel's Theorem has been used to argue that a computer can never be as smart as a human being because the extent of its knowledge is limited by a fixed set of axioms, whereas people can discover unexpected truths ... It plays a part in modern linguistic theories, which emphasize the power of language to come up with new ways to express ideas. And it has been taken to imply that you'll never entirely understand yourself, since your mind, like any other closed system, can only be sure of what it knows about itself by relying on what it knows about itself.

Epicurus said some pretty good stuff too.

If I met someone and we clicked with bdsm interests, and that indefinable attraction that you only discover in real life was there, then all well good but the vanilla side is as important at the fet. We'd have common interests, the usual ones like eating out, gigs, theatre etc but also the kink. I am pretty open minded about backgrounds but you would live very near to me, be able to match me (and that is not a competition, more of a meeting of equals) and respect the fact that I have demanding job and a whole real life outside fet. You'd have to have a life of your own as well and be able to fend for yourself when not with me. I don't have the time or energy to do the long distance thing so it would not be practical to engage with anyone living more than 30 miles from my home town. For the geographically challenged, Southend, Essex is in the South East of England - that is the bottom bit near France, not the side near Ireland or the top bit towards Norway.

You'll probably be between 35 and 55, single or accepted poly (of course) and comfortable in their own skin. I need to be able to converse with you over more than just football scores and I promise not to regale you with the latest Eastenders drama. Music is a passion; unfortunately all I can play is the didgeredoo very badly but I do listen to all types of music as much as possible.

For more of a sense of me, read my blogs and board contributions. I'm not looking for anyone to take care of me, live with me or be with me all the time, it doesn't work for me at all and that would never be an option, hence the importance of proximity and of self sufficiency.

Please don't expect prolonged cyber chat or material for onanism; if we think that there is common ground, then a quick meeting for a bite to eat and a chat would be expected.

I don't do casual d/s or sex, tried them, they don't work for me so I'd rather take my time, get to know someone and let it gradually unfurl. I have no shortage of s/m play friends so am really not looking for someone to do that with either.

Oh, by the way, I switch and this switch is not going to turn off the other side of her duality, that has to be acknowledged.

Please, please think about approaching the woman first rather than the domme/sub! It will stand you in far better stead...