I was recently accused by an IC member of knowing nothing and being ignorant. She claimed to be submissive but the tone of her profile said otherwise. I don't enjoy verbal abuse, especially when it comes from people I've never met. Verbal abuse has its place, but not within agreed boundaries, not outside them.

I have experience of submission and masochism. I have less experience of domination but do enjoy it. My leanings depend mostly on who I am with, and mutual fun can take many forms!

I prefer to meet people in the south west, and I prefer to meet people in real life sooner rather than later. I'm rubbish at pen pals and not really interested in cyber (although I have had at least one great cyber experience).

I don't send many memos. I get upset when the few I do send appear to be ignored. I always reply to them. If you have received a memo from me and ignored it, you know who you are, but one of the things about being my age is that I'll have forgotten who you are in a couple of weeks and may well write again!