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IC Name: BigOldHector Joined: 26 Oct 2001 Last visit: 42 hours ago Sex/gender: Male Location: Derby, UK Age: 58

Well, I would describe myself as a big gentle, soft-hearted kinda guy, who is unambiguously submissive to women (or at least the right type of woman for me), but not really at all into the stereotype of BDSM. I'm much more into D/s as a relationship based on worship, service & submission in a sincere & heartfelt sense than "ticking all the boxes" and conforming to what ever the scene expects.

Maybe its my romantic streak, but to me its the pure beauty and joy of putting a lady on a pedestal to be worshipped and obeyed in an elevated position of power and majesty, rather than the peripheral "kinks" that become associated with that concept (not that I can't be kinky too, but it isn't the be-all and end-all), that constitutes the real appeal of female domination. After all, being dominant or submissive is about what you are and what you feel, not what you wear or what "scenes" you do - and I have always felt that way.

Although currently single, I am not actively seeking anything in particular either BDSM-wise or relationship-wise at the moment (a case of severe depletion of mojo I think, as well as a somewhat chaotic life of late). Though D/s-aware friends/companionship are always welcome, especially those who share other interests outside kink which include,

Music - blues in all its forms from Blind Lemon to Bonamassa (the whole spectrum from B to B! ), "classic" (60's/70's) hard rock, soul, psychedelia, mod etc., jazz, baroque and much else besides

Good food & drink

Walking

Visiting historic sites + history & nostalgia in general

Classic motorcycles, cars, 'planes etc. (anybody up for a VMCC race meet or a "warbirds" airshow some time?)

Plus, of course, anything that makes me laugh!

While pet hates include,

The Daily Mail, the BNP, the "religious right" and the politics of prejudice and hate in general (from either side of the fence - having voted Tory doesn't necessarily make someone a bad person, even if I would personally rather stick pins my eyes )

Pulp culture, especially reality television & "celebrity" trivia

The entire MOR pop ballad "musical" genre - you really don't want to see me when I've just been forced to listen to Celine or Whitney!

And I'm sure much else I haven't thought of, but I'm not entirely cantankerous all the time!

So that's me, over to you.

Eye colour: brown   Hair colour: gone   Height: 6ft  

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