| I am a quietly confident, non smoking, ex rugby player, 6 foot 6 inches tall and powerfully built, carrying more weight then I would like but then who doesn't? By no stretch of the imagination could I be called a 'pretty boy' but then again I am very comfortable and happy about who and what I am. I find I have an aptitude, and a liking, for Domination, D/s, Bondage, in all its forms, CP especially spanking, caning and Flogging, Humiliation, Gags and most iterations of BDSM. I am also medically trained (by the Military.)
With what many consider to be a reasonably well-developed sense of humour and fun I am most definitely not looking for a series of 'quickie' one-night stands, I seek a more a fulfilling long-term r/l relationship. I am married and although not looking for a major r/t commitment (perhaps a lady in a similar situation?) I have no wish to break up anyone else's marriage. Yes I am still married, and no bullshit or clichés about "my wife doesn't understand me" She is actually quite ill and has been for many years now. Her illness means that she lost interest in sex, and me, once the powerful drugs she is prescribed took hold of her personality. It's not her fault and I have no plans to leave her in the immediate future and certainly not while the kids (one teens and one early twenties) are still dependant on us. Over the years, though, I have become increasingly frustrated and lonely and miss the intellectual and emotional compatibility of someone on the same wavelength, I know it's a utopian view but first and foremost I am seeking something long-term, if it all works out, but a relationship where friend ship comes first and the rest follows on from that. What I seek is something that could exist in parallel to our real lives... bit like slipping through the looking glass. I am sorry if this all sounds brutal or airy fairy to you but I feel it is best to be honest and upfront from the outset. Feel free to ask me about my situation and I will happily respond. Try contacting me on bf20athotmaildotcodotuk!
I have a job that often involves extensive travel round the UK and Europe so arranging to meet up and getting to know each other a little better should be no problem. Clearly someone from the West Midlands conurbation would be preferable but I am open to discussing most options and possibilities I am hoping to find a submissive lady, perhaps in similar circumstances, who has similar tastes. (Discretion is assumed and assured.)
Basically, what you see is what you get; I am caring, sincere, honest, and reliable, and have absolutely no time for bullshit, I do have flaws and never try to hide them. I am/can be a nice guy but I am also as perverted as fuck. I don't subscribe to the world of formal titles and net etiquette, airs and graces, and caps when addressing me and I certainly don't expect anyone to automatically call me 'Sir' simply because I describe myself as Alpha/Dominant/Masterful! If it's your thing then good luck to you, each to their own.
My motto is 'you may have 'your preferred way' of doing things, I certainly have 'my preferred way of doing things', and my way will be the way for us should you submit to me.
I won't do what the majority expect simply to fit in, and I do generally look ridiculous in fetish gear! The fetish check list should only be considered as a rough guide; it can alter and flex to suit my differing tastes and moods and not necessarily all are set in stone. If you wish to know what is immutable and essential then open up a dialogue with me, ask the question, and I will tell you. This is not the platform on which to be exposing the deeper, darker side of my nature!
So what can I offer you? Well I am imaginative, creative, thoughtful and passionate, yet will cheerfully 'take you in hand' whenever the need arises. Age, looks, race and body type are immaterial just so long as we make the right 'connection'. If you have read this far and the profile strikes a chord, then do please mail me here. Hope to hear from you soon and feel free to contact me for more details and information
Okay, so you know a little about me, but what about you? Well, you're a kind and honest girl, with a genuine desire and need to submit. You have a good sense of humour, intelligence, wit and a caring attitude. Your level of experience in this lifestyle matters not, as you know I'll be patient and encouraging. Hopefully, like myself, you'll realise that the connection between two people is of far greater importance than the window dressing of formal titles and trite protocol. You have lots of interests outside of d/s but have no desire in giving them up. You do however, seek a relationship in which you want to feel loved, but also free to explore your submission and darker desires. You believe in respect and honesty, and are comfortable with who, and what, you are.
What do I seek in a submissive?
There is an inherent danger in trying to describe 'the perfect submissive for me' in that I risk pushing my current fantasies to the forefront and also failing to consider the qualities of other submissives simply because they do not meet the 'current criteria'. I much prefer an attitude which is one of I don't know what my perfection is but hope to meet some one who comes close(ish), to the following
She (for it will always be a she) should be proud of who and what she is and should always strive to make me proud of her too.
She should strive to excel and always be the very best she can be in ALL aspects of her life and service to me.
She should know and understand her limits, but wish to be eased or cajoled beyond them. If she feels she doesn't know her limits them we will explore and discover them together.
She should also desire and want to work towards giving up these limits and accept rules and rituals to reinforce the dynamic between us.
She should show respect and expect respect in return.
She should see/regard her submission as part of all of her life and not as something turned on and off.
Her behaviour should be sufficient to get my attention; she should never have to ask for my attention.
She should revel in and happily accept my praise and equally accept that discipline and occasionally punishment is a vital part of dispute resolution.
She needs the maturity to accept there will be differences between us at times and accept that whilst I will hear her opinions, she will accept my decisions.
Whether we are together or apart she should want me to be proud of her, happy to show to others that she is mine. Her dress, manner, attitude and deportment should reflect this at all times.
She should expect to be protected and cared for and not afraid to expose her vulnerabilities to me to achieve this.
She should expect to support and nourish me so I am not afraid to expose my vulnerabilities to her when I feel them.
She should be able to understand and appreciate formality and associate it with our intimacy and not consider it aloofness on my part.
She can, and must have, some strongly held views/attitudes and not be afraid to express them in a respectful manner.
And finally, you're about to get in touch with me, just for a chat, and we will take it from there.(With big thanks to Belasarius who recently set these thoughts out very succinctly)
BigFrank
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